Hi Vicky,

Welcome to the board, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. But yes there are places up there, "the reception" which assists arrives in making their transition and learning how to operate over there.

I'm glad you already believe, most people are blocked by there beliefs, but did you know you can experience it for youself as well?

I can't comment on the buzzing sensation sorry, I have never heard of this before.

Also I don't think guilt etc would block him from making contact, I think it will do the opposite as he would want to let you know he is ok.

look forward to hearing from you on here,

Ryan

Vicky,

My condolences to you and your family.  When you said . . .

>> Going back to my brother in laws death, I am concerned about him...he needed help down here, and did not get it. I am positive that help will be up there for him, but I know he must feel so bad for what he has done, would his guilt? shame? and fear of rejection stop him from making any contact with loved ones?. <<

The questions you ask about are why this web site exists, and why I do what I do.  The questions you ask are the ones I wish were talked about and answered from knowledge more often.  I wish I had those answers, but I only have opinions.   We are Here in whatever world we find Ourselves, in whatever moment of eternity we are choosing to experience, to learn to experience and express pure unconditional love to an ever greater degree.  We learn by giving, we learn by getting, it's the learning part that is important.

In the suicide cases I have worked I have found that the feelings you described your brother-in-law might be feeling can have a way of trapping us, or getting us stuck in retrieval lingo.  The remedy is simple, change the feeling to love and those feelings can't trap you.  Love and fear cannot coexist.  So, how can we the physically living help someone like your brother-in-law?  Sit quietly, bring his name to mind, asked to join into his awareness, and then just sit there quietly feeling love.  I do not mean think about love, I mean I feel love.  And if the feeling of love slips away, it's OK, just remember a time in your life you are feeling love.  Let that memory bring the feeling of love into you, express the desire to connect with his awareness again, then just quietly sit there and feel love some more.

If any of you reading this do that, Shaun will feel it.  Your awareness is connected to his, he will feel what you are feeling.  You may feel what he is feeling, perceive him, those around him or his surroundings.  You two are in the same space in the same time.  It is part of the nature of consciousness that time and space realities can be created like a bubble under the ocean's surface.  The physicists have not yet figured out that you can be in the same space at the same time if the two of you create that time and space reality beyond the boundaries of other time space realities.  You just created another bubble in the ocean.  If any of you feel love while you are in that bubble with him, his fears and guilts will not be in that bubble.  It will clear his mind so to speak and he will be able to see and communicate with whoever is there to assist him.  They are the ones I call Helpers.  Sometimes a relative, sometimes a friend, sometimes a new friend.  That process is called Retrieval.  By doing retrievals: assisting those who are stuck to become aware of nearby helpers and go to a better place, you will begin learning from your own direct experience about what exists beyond the physical reality bubble we share.  It's a very interesting place, I recommend exploring it with your friends.  What I learned about what exists after death made any fear of it utterly laughable.

Vicky, if you do what I mentioned above, feel love while remembering Shaun, you may become aware of him, his surroundings or aware of those around him.  Make notes if you are interested in gathering evidence about the validity of your experience.

Love to all of you,

Bruce

Hi Vicky,

My condolences.

Several years ago my older sister accidently overdosed on perscribed medicine.
One day I was intensely thinking about her. Our childhood, funny times together. I can remember vividly picturing these times and especially 'feeling' them. That night  during dream state she came to me. She was so happy and excited. She said, "See, it's this simple, nothing to it." I do remember there was someone with her, but I couldn't make out who it was. I'm smiling as I type this, she was like a kid in a candy shop. 
Hope this is of some comfort for you.

Daff

Hi Vicky,
Re:>>I am very curious about the buzzing sensation,especially as it only shows itself with negative thoughts...>>
My experiences go along with your earlier comments that you considered the buzzes a warning that your thoughts must turn from the negative in this situation. You are very fortunate that you are sensitive to these warnings and know they have helped you in the past.

My opinion is that your own personal spirit guides are watchful and want to remind you to do well now, that what you do now has important consequences. Some things we can get by with more leniency, but some just have too much eventual impact.

Could you even feel some love for his widow and other family also? My condolences to you and the family.
(I've ignored such warnings and experienced the negative consequences--it's not worth satisfying your curiosity on this, believe me.) Best wishes,
bets

HI Vicky-

Buzzing is often associated with leaving your physical body, kundalini, a few of the intermediate states as we spiritually evolve can bring buzzing and a host of other noises, and may also indicate connections with other beings. 

Providing that you haven't tried to "capture" Shaun to keep him in this world, I'd suggest following Bruce's technique to get in touch with him.

The biggest drawback in many suicide cases is that the suicide feels guilty and seeks punishment rather than feeling as if there's an important lesson to be learned through which there will come a reward. Coupled with "survivor guilt" of the family this can cause attachment problems in some cases. The overall goal is to realize that suicide is also a normal part of life for some, that it is not punished, that God both understands and loves without any condition whatsoever, and that by contacting Shaun you can explain this to him, and help him to take advantage of this experience as an opportunity.

At the same time, it might be useful to see whether you are a bit angry that Shaun abandoned you and your family. This is normal. But once you recognize that it is a negative emotion born of frustrated love, it can be turned around into loving wishes for support.

dave

Hi Vicky my thoughts and prayers are with you for your sadness of losing shaun. Is there a libary near you as you could get books from there and i think a lot of libarys hire cds and videos out now. Is there a spiritualist church near you as well because when i lost y father i started to go to my spiritualist church and it helped a lot .There are people there all going through the loss of someone dear to them and there really kind and friendly and always ready to talk to you if you want them to. God bless you vicky.   Juditha

Hi Vicky-

I bought Bruce's "Home Study Course"  and have found it useful. I'd recommend it if you want to learn his meditatiion techniques. My copy was even autographed!

However, the very basic method of going into trance and then asking for Shaun to come and converse with you should be adequate. It should be possible to do the same thing with respect to the energy that is causing your buzzing.

Another thought is that you might try alternate nostril breathing as a technique to stabilize your kundalini (that's the power source for the buzzer).  Hold your nose with thumb and forefinger. Open one side and breathe in. Close that side. Open the other side and breathe out. Then breathe in on that side, close it and breathe out on the opposite side.  That's one round.  Traditionally the count used is IN - 1 count, HOLD - 4 counts, OUT - 2 counts. It's easy to count pulse beats, say in a pattern of 2-8-4 or 3-12-6 since these give the same pattern.  Continue for a couple minutes. What this does is equalize the energy flow in your psychic energy system (nadis). It should alter or suppress the nature of the buzzing and may give you more direct access to its immediate soure. Or, at very worst, it's harmless.

dave