I wrote, Quote:


 Actually don't think that it is so simplistic...  

 Sometimes there is an opposite reaction too, along with the Like attracts Like...

 Sometimes when you lack one strongly, you idealize the aspect you lack...

 This is seen in romantic love, and in romanticism, i think...

 Being a guy, growing up in a male dominated society, and having a strong masculine side, though less strong than most guys i knew...

 I seemed to idealize women, and feminine love a lot for awhile...seemed to be because of my own lack of balance...kind of a polarization attracting thing...

  Yet it wasn't cause i actually lacked the feminine energy, its just that there was a polarization, a push pull, a lack of balance, and ultimately i would say i am balanced to the masculine half more so...

 ?????  

Justin,

I think that masculine and feminine energies can be equally gentle.  I think they can also be equally forceful.  And two people can meet each other on a level that is harmonious no matter what kind of behavior they are displaying. 

A woman can be "forceful" in a playful manner.  A man can be gentle and firm in his communication. 

I think what is key is the level of sensitivity between two people.  Fully "hearing" someone can reduce any tension and conflict. But sometimes one must "know" a person to "hear" them. 

However, someone who cannot "feel" that they are heard will shout louder.  And our hearing changes in sensitivity just as our eyesight does.  If you read the words on a page they may sound a little different to you each time.

Perhaps if Jesus felt he could not be heard, he needed to speak louder in certain situations to bring attention to what was important.

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I posted this on another thread, but it seems to fit in with this one so I've copied and pasted it here.  I agree with what Dave says here and this may be saying the same thing, only in the way I understand this concept.

Quote Mairlyn: “Perceive it all as love and you won't see it turning on and off. Everyone needs to give their ego a rest.”

This brings up an interesting question… how do we give our ego a rest?   

What we see in others is the exact same thing that we see and understand within our self.  If we see love in others, then this is because we know and understand love.  If we see anger in others, then this is because we know and understand anger.  Even when we know that we have a choice, we still seem to choose to do what we do not really want to do.  It’s like a constant age-old battle within our self.  Jesus for example described this as the spirit being willing, but the flesh is weak.  And Paul in Romans 7:22 describes this as a war between his inmost self and his mind making him “captive to the law of sin” and I could go on giving examples of the battle we each experience from other sources… but my point is that there’s not a human alive who hasn’t experienced this duality and the battle between our inner core essence and our ego.

Recognizing this battle and understanding it is how we can give our ego a rest.  Essentially it is the flow of energy that wells up from within us that we allow or disallow to flow easily.  The energy of our inner core manifests as feelings of free flowing love and pleasure and we all wish to experience more of this in our lives.  So why don’t we then?   

I think it is because we don’t have a complete understanding of this energy because negative energy produces pleasure as well and this is what confuses us.  When we lash out or make little snide remarks we feel momentary pleasure because it is the movement of energy that feels pleasurable regardless of what we are manifesting… love or anger, etc.  I think we really need to understand and “get this”… It is the movement of energy that produces pleasure!  What manifests from the energy is determinable by our belief system, which is riddled with fears of all kinds.

PUL not only comes from our core essence, it is our core essence.  As this energy wells up from within it begins to flow pure, but as it moves we much of the time either block it or distort it because of our fears that we have incorporated into our belief system.  For example, we are usually quite shy about showing our true essence and most of the time we don’t show how much we care or how much we love.  We cover our love up by labeling it, we squelch it to what we think is a reasonable degree of expression of appropriate behavior.  In other words, we don’t allow the fullness of our inner core to express itself as PUL most of the time.   

Sometimes in a moment when we are caught off guard and allow our core essence to flow freely we let go and out comes our inner essence in a sudden act of kindness or expression of love or friendship and a moment of close connection is made and PUL is released.  Then, not being able to tolerate the purity of this love and light we become shy and pull away.  It takes only a few seconds for us to feel embarrassed and close off a bit, thereby shutting down the flow of our love.  This happens because we started thinking things like… maybe I did something wrong, etc. and eventually we stop the flow of PUL.  So when we stop the flow of our life force, we contain it and distort it.  We bring ourselves back to what feels “safe” and “normal” because we don’t want to rock any boats… especially our own.  This is the human condition that we all are experiencing and we live in this duality of choice.

Choice is our free will in action.  In every moment we choose to say yes to allow our inner essence of love to flow freely by saying yes to a balanced, powerful and safe undefendedness or we choose to say no.  When we say no, we are in a defense mode that blocks our true essence.  And this is what I think healing is all about.  Healing is reconnecting to our inner core essence in the areas of our life where we have in our psyche disconnected from our core.  When we suppress the love and positive energy within, we also suppress our creativity, our health and our ability to heal ourselves physically, mentally and spiritually.  We always have the choice of aligning with our core or aligning with our ego.  The first heals us; the latter maintains the status quo.  I think we give our ego a rest when as Mairlyn says… we perceive it all with love… even our suffering.

Love, Kathy

Nicely put Kathy.

I had thought I was afraid of the world, and I was simply afraid tolove .

Ha!

Justin, maybe you're trying to read more into my statement than what I intended it to mean.  The following two sentences explain my meaning.  I'm not speaking of the afterlife at all.  Only the struggle each of us battles with as humans.

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While I enjoyed and learned from the authors you mention, I haven't formed a solid philosophy regarding what happens to us when we make the transition.  Since Dave has done hundreds of past life regressions, he may be able to answer your questions better than I.

K

HI Recoverer-
I like Kathy's expression, and all the input from my regressees seems to follow both that, and what you are saying as well.

From a slightly different perspective, Buddhists also ask much the same questions in their development. Buddhism is focussed on love, especially at the more advanced levels, where I see a parallel to your reference to the false teachers, gurus etc. For Buddhists, life doesn't work because we are attached to things that don't work, like contingencies to satisfy before we love. To give the ego a rest thus means releasing our attachments. Subtle, but at the same time, obvious.

d

I find this topic extremely interesting.

Dave, I would so much love to hear more about your past lives and what you learned from them. If you feel like talking about this, you can PM me about this.

I don't believe there is a soft love or a hard love, because love is always the expression of a unity and therefore it is complete and every aspect is bound to another.

I think love is only expressed in different ways. I think we categorize as softer a socially-seen-feminine-side and harder as a socially-seen-masculine-side. I believe this is only a human, social and historically-momentary point of view. Also difficult to express the many nuances of loves through categorizing words.

I think love is larger than this life. I think love is larger than what the human condition (often) knows presently.

Kisses,

from Gayle