Hi Jambo-
From past life regression reports we tend to have a much larger "family" than we usually see here. The IARRT generally seems to have the opinion that we hang out with 50 to 100 other souls as a sort of "group". (I'd make it 127 members to a group based on topological considerations, but that's just an opinion.)

Those for whom we presently feel affection have probably been through many prior lifetimes with us in the past, and we chose this specific lifetime because we have unfinished business with them, whether giving birth, teaching, supporting or whatever, including simply having a good time being in love.

I recall a man who said that he died and waited, haunting his wife (gently) until she died. They went into the Light together. Then, as he put it, "She went to her group and I went to mine."

A much more advanced soul remarked that atdeath he simply merged into the Oneness. "I feel like a drop of water in a bucket. I'm still the drop, but at the same time I'm the whole bucket of water." In that case we get to love everyone all at once in our role as what Edgar Cayce called Co-Creators with God.

People who are very family oriented tend to remain that way. One woman died of cancer and was so upset at her husband's gried that she began raising a ruckus in the Spirit World (Upper Astral in this case). "Hey, who's in charge here? I want to file a complaint." As a past life therapist, I do Spirit World activities in real time, so I wasn't quite sure what to do when she started in. Finally a rather sturdy angelic being came and more or less told her that her feelings had been noted, and it was time to shut up.

Another woman found that all of her loving friends and family were waiting for her and they had a marvelous party as soon as she died and joined them in spirit.

Based on this, I'd guess that you can more or less have any way you want. If you want to plan a party right now, I suspect that you'll have a chance to attend it in the next 50-100 years.

dave

Thanks for your opinions guys 

I like Daves ideas about what happened with that "sturdy angel" lol, Im goin to be in a lot of trouble when I cross over becuase im upset with the way they do things down here!

I also agree with the theory Dave wrote about close family members re-incarnating over the years.

Ryan that link is top-notch, ive added it to my bookmarks for future references.