Hey all 

Some "strange" spiritual events have been happening with me over the past few months.  I have never doubted the survival of the human soul to great extent in the past as my mum has always been a spiritualist and I used to go to meetings at the local centre.  But 1 thing I am not ashamed to admit is that I am absolutley terrified of death and have been ever since I can remember.  In the past I have never spent too much time thinking about it but recently I have, what worries me is that thank God nobody in my immediate circle of friends and family have recently passed on.
One weekend, about two weeks ago, (Like poor Cookie) before I fell asleep I just wondered what if i or anyone else doesnt survive physical death when it is my time to pass on?  I thought long and very hard about it and decided to research deeper into the mystery of the spirit world.
My research (I believe some fate and other forces guided me to this site) led me to Victor Zammit's fantastic site and then eventually this one.  After again thinking long and hard about the evidence available about the afterlife I firmly believe that there is enough solid evidence to prove that the soul exists both past and beyond physical death.
Now throughout this experience I have had a "gut" feeling that one of my now deceased relatives is trying to contact me with an important message or warning.  My Gut feeling says that it is my Grandma Esther but lately I feel like it is someone much younger. 
If anybody has any good advice (which im sure you do) please reply.  I am also gathering personal accounts of paranormal encounters to help ease my lifelong fear of death.

that is a very very good question i was just wondering the same thing? how would you know if a spirit wanted to contact you but couldnt?

Hi Jambo,
you can compare the two possibilities: Was it just wishful thinking and the details you got of your grandfather were matching just by random coincidence or by uncovering early childhood rememberings, or did you really get informations about your grandpa, maybe actually through speaking with him? How probable is each of this two ways looking at it for you? I found often "normal" "scientific" explanations sound much more phantastic than a spiritistic, new ager etc. explanation.
Btw, it might be that your grandparents would like to show up as very young persons.
Spooky

Most likely spirits visit us while dreaming or lucid dreaming.