You know what Bob, I was thinking about this and spirit just told me that it's one of the many Universal Laws.  It's impossible to have fear if one has Pure Unconditional Love in their heart (chakra). It just is.

With Love,
Mairlyn  

Okey dokey.

Thanks, Alysia. I never have a problem understanding what you write.

Love,

Bob

An interesting subject.

It seems to me that sometimes I can feel a multitude of emotions at the same time.  Sadness, laughter -- really, some of the things we are sad about are truly funny when seen in a certain light.

I think we can hold conflicting ideas and emotions in our hearts and minds and that we do it all the time if we are open to the expression of our entire selves. It's kind of exciting to open our hearts completely to all that is there.

But, back to the funny part.  Just today I was trying to buy my husband a Christmas card after almost 15 years of marriage.  None of them say the right thing for someone right in the center of a mid-life crisis!   They really don't!!!!

"Blah, blah, blah, blah, love,
blah, blah, blah, blah, love,
forever, blah, blah, perfect, blah blah,
always, blah, blah...."

I think I might hate Christmas....

Life is so complicated and tiring sometimes that I think we just shut a lot of it down at times but we are so multifaceted as humans here.

I do think we can feel fear and many other things and still decide to deliberately act out of love, kind of like jumping off a cliff. 

Here goes!!!!

love, blink

Very very off-topic.  But what the heck!

Yes, creativity!!!  But you see, my mid-life crisis has made me suddenly and perversely completely averse to the entire Christmas hoopla.

I waited until Friday to buy my first gift.  I was kind of depressed and "indifferent" and I have to say that it was amazingly useful in a way.

I went into the mall and walked around for a while and picked up things right and left with hardly a thought in my head.  Amazingly, they were just the right gifts.  Something about "not caring" made my feet walk right to the perfect gifts and my arms reach out and and take them without even wondering for one second if it was "right" or "perfect" enough.

So, maybe a little depression and indifference isn't such a bad thing!!!!

I'm always learning....and thanks for being there, Alysia.

with love, blink

Hi Bob,
if love has something to do with interest and care, then it would be contradictive (I don't say contrary/opposed) to fear, as fear of something usually doesn't include an examination of the object of the fear, but keeping a not changing image of that object, or influenced by this, to see additional aspects, but only fear-related aspects of the object of fear. For example, in the case of fear of foreigns it is often reported that becoming known and familiar of the foreign people reduces this kind of fear.
When someone is in the woods, not armed, and a not friendly bear is around, and one get interested in the bear, what is it doing, how is it doing, what's a bear's life about etc... the fear would go away; well IF you can manage thinking like that! It seems to work only if one is in the process of this way of thinking; because when you come to the conclusion that the bear is actually and really dangerous- well, then one is in fear or one tries again to get into a state of interest, care, understanding. Don't know if that would prevent from being eaten. But better to become a meal without fear than with.
Bye, Spooky

Yes, I do feel strangely compelled to finish my Christmas rant right here on this thread.  It's probably wrong and makes me a little afraid, but I know you all love me....

One thing I noticed was that my "indifferent" shopping was a little like a retrieval!  The slight indifferent edge made the "travel" easier from one item to the other.  Lacking "fear" (because I just didn't care enough) somehow made the process easier instead of harder.  There was a "blank" in my head because I had no idea what gifts I was going to buy, just like the open-mindedness with which a person will start a retrieval exercise. The gifts were then "retrieved" for my loved ones with relative ease.

My "indifferent" shopping experience to give my loved ones the commercial tokens of my love made me think a little bit.  It was interesting how "not caring" made the choosing and even the satisfaction of my gift buying better.  Normally I will fret a little and be "fearful" that I am not choosing the "right" gifts or they are "too expensive" or "too cheap."

You see, at least here in the United States, if it hasn't reached your part of the world, we are trained at an early age through commercials on television and a myriad other ways to be very afraid if we are not the "perfect" consumer that we were "born" to be.

It is instilled deeply within our psyches at a very early age until what is supposed to be a "magic" time of Santa, celebration of Christ, or simply a midwinter festival becomes a maddening search for materialistic fulfillment.

Anyway, it's all mixed together for us, the fear and the love.  Fear of not being the "perfect" consumer.  Fear of not showing our "materialistic" love in the perfect way.  This teaching that we are all exposed to is lesson of "lack" and contributes to a basic insecurity (or fear).

However, if we have food to eat and loved ones in our lives (like this forum, imperfect as each of us are!) we have quite a lot.  

And even if we "know" that fear of "lack" is all an illusion, for some of us it is difficult to let go of a belief system like this. It is tied to primitive notions of survival at a very young age.  What makes it even worse is that we are also "taught" through advertising and cultural conditioning that we won't be "loved" unless we adhere to impossible standards of materialism.  It is a "lose-lose" situation for everyone....

So, I guess I don't really want to be fully engaged in that cultural tradition.  Perhaps a little holiday depression and indifference is a HEALTHY reaction to it all.  What do you think?

I guess that's all I wanted to say, in my own simplistic way today.  I feel much better now, so thank you all.  Just being able to share this with you has helped me a lot.

May the spirit of love and the real meaning of the holidays, which are about family and community ties, and sharing love, be with all of us.

blinik