Welcome Eileen.  I am sorry for the passing of your husband. Go to the top of the page and you will see Bruce's books and tapes. I would encourage you to read his books but you can also jump right in and get his latest book and CD's which are actual workshop experiences.

Yes, many of us here do contact the deceased. I've been doing it for almost 5 years now. It is so much easier than one would think. Put aside all doubt and trust what you are getting.

Good luck and hope to hear of your experiences.

Blessings,
Mairlyn

hi Eileen im very much sorry for your loss ive as well just lost my bestfriend/boyfriend a month ago so i can imagine the pain your going through.  I stumbled across this website out of curiosity and let me tell you the people here are so very supportive its nice to talk to people who have gone through what you feel. As for contacting the other side i havent really been quite able to yet. It does get frustrating oh let me tell you lol but i guess it takes practice just dont give up when you think you have nothing and its all in your head, plenty of times ive thought that it was just me making it up all in my head but its better to talk to them whats the worse that could happen? as for you, theres a lot of friendly and supportive people here. well take care

Eileen,

Welcome.

You have my unconditional support.

with Love,

Bob

Beserk,

How can I get my hands on that study?

Bob

Rob, I read about the study in an NDE  book several years ago, but can no longer recall which book reported on it.  I'll let you know if I can track it down again.  What I don't recall are the criteria for what counted as a "contact" with deceased loved ones.  The criteria are important to me because, for example, I am more suspicious of dreams than apparitions as a source of alleged contact.

Eileen, your reluctance to claim contact from these unusual experiences is admirable, given the pressure of wishful thinking.  I would encourage you to suspend efforts to resolve whether you believe that any of these incidents are genuine contact.   Such an obsession can drive one mad.  I suggest you instead meditate on your experiences with a sense of childlike wonder.   Perhaps, one of our experiences will  grafually loom as the most  promising and kindle a sense of knowing.  That said, let me share an experience that illustrates why your "odorific" experience  seems the most promising of the experiences you reported. 

I reported this incident here several months ago.  I had coffee with Gordon, an old acquaintance from my youth who is now on a ministry staff.  We swapped stories of our encounters with the superanatural.  Gordon told me about Anne's death.   Anne was an elderly woman in a nursing home.   During a visit, Gord noticed a bottle of lilac cologne beside her bed.  He asked her if she'd like an application.   Anne replied, "Oh that would be lovely."    So Gord called a female aide and asked her to apply the cologne.   Anne sighed with delight, smiled intently, and lay back, suddenly dead!   What a way to go! 

At the same time (2PM), several miles away, her daughter was working in the barn with her husband.   Suddenly she asked her husband, "Do you smell that?  The smell of manure seems to be overpowered by the smell of lilacs."  The husband replied, "I was just going to comment on that."  Imagine the daughter's surprise when she discovered how and exactly when her mother had died!"  No one seemed to know how the bottle of lilac cologne got there.   Eileen, your independent confirmation of your husband's cologne odor reminds me of this charming incident. 

Don 

Hi Eileen, and welcome.  Sorry for your loss.  I'm sure you'll find some answers and hopefully a lot of comfort here on this forum. 


Your accounts you described do sound like valid attempts of contact, and like Don has said, I too suggest that you meditate on them.  I'm happy you are paying attention and taking notes.  You will certainly find the answers you are looking for.   

Don, I love the cologne story!

Love, Vicky

Hello everyone,
        I am also a new member.  I have been reading alot of the message traffic for the past six months.  I am in the same boat as many of the other newbies.  I lost my mom a few months ago.  I have been trying to make some sort of sense of all of this.  I read this post and I had more questions about the advice the senior people were giving.  I just ordered the 5th ed. book and 6 cd set.  Is this the right package for a bone stock beginner?  I noticed you guys refered the other girl to some different books.  Since I am new at this, should I be reading some other books first?  I guess what I am trying to ask is, are these books going to help a new comer understand the principles and fundamentals behind afterlife exploration? 

Thank you all very much.

Tai