Eileen, I lost my husband the ninth of this past September.  Funny thing is, I've pretty matter of factly dealt with our resident ghosts and spirits for years, but now I second guess every communication I get from John (I suppose because it's so important to me).  I haven't been pushing real hard yet, it's early days and it seems a lot of the deceased seem to wait until we "get it together" enough that we're not going to go heading off after them or something drastic like that before they give us real strong communications (though certainly some show up right away.)

However, if he still has any interest from the afterlife in the barn staying upright, he's gonna have to send me some lottery numbers!

maybe Michael's higher self knew what he was doing for a reason Eileen? I've heard of this before, where people just seem to go to sleep and...just leave..I'm thinking theres a reason and we can discover it with persistence in asking...very well, I know you must miss him..I am sure the bond is unbreakable..except in appearance. funny how some of us suffer for many years, and others just walk away...pay attention to any dream contact and let us know..wishing you well, alysia

hi Eileen,
      i was reading on how your husband died. That was very strange. it must be soo hard on you i can relate to you so much my boyfriend/bestfriend just died a month ago from a heartattack which i as an CMA think is strange considering he was 24 in good health. I know he was actually taking meds for depression and anxiety. the night before he passed i called him at night and we talked, the prior week weve were having a lot of trouble with the relationship becouse he wasnt on his meds and that made it difficult to be around him well back to what i was saying i called him and he told me that everything was going to get better between us and that he was starting a new kind of medication i was very thrilled. well the next day i kep calling but got the busy line so i left, later that night i came home and his mother called to inform me what had happened. I honestly went nuts and had to be hospitilized i didnt know what to do with myself or why this happened and i very much blamed myself for not trying harder and not saying i love you the night before. well still is a mystery on why he died? i like you am very hurt (sorry if im rambling i just seem like you understand my situation more) i feel soo lonely i know i have my friends and family but lonely in a sense where i lost my soulmate,bestfriend and companion. So ive been trying so hard to contact him and im getting nothing! i cant even dream of him which im pretty upset becouse me and him very much believed in ghosts and always said that if it were one of us to past wed contact each other and nothings happen? i dont know maybe hes lost nad hasnt crossed over? well sorry to vent i do feel a little better to talk to someone

Hi Lydia and Eileen -

I regret your loss, and especially the sensation of the empty place left by death.  All who have lost loved ones can empathize.

However, the biggest block to getting in touch with our loved ones is usually our own refusal to accept their continuing presence.  Common ways to detect their presence include electrical phenomena, odors, half-seen images, coincidences of every sort, the behavior of pets etc.

Bruce's "book five" is a How-To for soul retrieval, that gives relatively systematic methods of developing your own abilities to interact with the departed. I personally enjoyed it.

For more technical help, the IARRT is an organization of professionals interested in work with the souls of the dead.  I'm a member and do similar work, and I've found it relatively easy to reconnect people with their deceased loved ones.  Most hypnotists can do the same work, providing that they've had adequate exposure to the principles involved. There's a How-To on my site at www.mbs-hypnoclinic.com
under "stuff to read" - if you can find it.  Given this information, you should be able to find a local para-professional therapist who can work with you. 

The difference between using a regression session and your own senses is primarily a trade-off in which you have less immediacy, but can converse, as opposed to the sense of presence and intimacy, but little conversational flow. My personal suggestion is simply to express love, interest,  and confidence that everything will be OK, and then wait for feedback. That way you stay "in touch", and no "outside presence" is needed to make it work.

As an example, look at Alysia's posts (as one instance) and the strong sense of love that she exudes. That keeps the doors open.

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