Based on what most people are reporting, you will look like whatever you wish to look like.

It could be the old you, the young you, a ninja turtle or even a monster !

As for love, you can love in this world, and yes you can love in the other world. It's not infatuation though, it's more like a really strong frienship.

well thats nice to know. is it true that love in the after life is more like friendly love not infatuation? and will i meet him again or will it be hard to find him?

well lol wow that was very intresting! so i guess we can love someone in a friendly way and lover way? hopefully he waits for me!

Lydia,

I'm sure you feel that when you are 80 years old and pushing that walker, you will still be calling his name. Time does NOT heal all wounds. However, let's look at this a bit differently. OK?

I'll use myself as an example. In the last two years I have been through Iraq, divorce (with 5 kids), and a relationship with a previous sister that tore me to shreds as much as the divorce and Iraq did together. The previous sister was put in front of me as a lesson, and the energy was incredible, unlike with anyone else ever. Add to that legal charges from an event that I did not instigate (but handled poorly, like no sh!t, considering the stress), near homelessness, everything being taken away from me, my resumption of college delayed pending settling of a tuition bill because of the deployment, and you get the idea. Oh yeah, and a deployment to New Orleans. They had to through that in there too.

I was getting HAMMERED, and it wasn't stopping. I finally told my guides that this sh!t had better stop or I will end this incarnation. (Oh, I forget to mention an extremely violent childhood with abandonment thrown in as well). I could not believe that I would have put all this in my life plan in such a short period of time. Enough is enough, I said. Knock it off! It was the only leverage I had.

It stopped. Then they decided to explain to me why all these individual events occured. The wife was a pre-life agreement to bring forward those kids and that was it. Done. New Orleans was about retrievals. I still don't know about Iraq and I
m not asking as I don't like to think about it  (still know people who are dying over there). The girlfriend I already explained was a lesson (for me and her as well).

What I left out was the absolute, soul wrenching, wailing, trying to crawl into the floor agony.

It seems that it was difficult to guide me. I also was very resilient to lesser hammerings so previous attempts to get my attention didn't have the desired effect.

Through this process I became aware of my guides. I can communicate with them, my intuitive abilities are growing rapidly, I know who I am, what I am, and what I am here to do, I know why things happen (when they wish to tell me). I also found out I have a mate, who I am to meet shortly. I also learned about Pure, Unconditional Love (PUL) and it's importance. "Mystical" experiences and profound suffering historically have often gone hand in hand, BTW.

So there are two sides to this particular coin.

So lets look at things a bit from the PUL perspective. If the roles of you and your boyfriend were reversed, and you loved him purely and unconditionally, what would you want for him? Would you want him to hang on to you until his dying day? Or would you want him to be happy? Would you want him to spend every night alone thinking about you for decades or would you want him to proceed with his life and find someone to be with until everyone is reunited in the Afterlife? Would you want him to join you knowing that his life plan would be screwed up and that there will be infinite time to be together later anyway?

Do you know what your agreement was with him? Do you know what his and your life plans are?
Are you SURE he is the only man you are supposed to be with in this life?? Why do you assume you have to pass to spend time with him? I'm spending time with my actual MATE and I haven't even met her physically yet. The particular guide of mine who is doing the matchmaking with her guide happens to be a previous spouse (and it was a very good marriage). It's also not beyond possibility that your boyfriend is working on your behalf to hook you up with someone so you can be happy and continue to evolve. What's more, it's possible to reincarnate with someone and be with them again.

The key here is clarity and understanding. This is achieved by what Robert Monroe called A Different Overview. My suggestion is to either learn to communicate with your guide(s) or find someone who can (and test her or him, of course). Learning to shift the focus of your consciousness so you can see him "face to face" would be great too. although communicating with your guides should be sufficient for clarity and understanding.

First though, you MUST ask your guides to help you. They need you to ask. They have rules they have to follow, too. Ask calmly and with clear intention. And they are not all powerful or all knowing, either. But at least one of them will have been with you since birth, have access to your life plan, and will know you better than you know yourself. I would also ask them to help you heal. And oh yeah, you can ask for more guides to help you, too.

Sorry if I sound like I am lecturing. I tend to do that.

with Love,
Bob

Which has nothing to do with ME (I'm not sure
I want an afterlife anyway) but with a guy I know
who DOES MOST CERTAINLY want an afterlife. (He told me so, many times!)
The very first friend I had in school, to be exact.
His chances for real happiness were cut short
back in '74, when he was 5 years old. He was
playing in a leaf pile and didn't see the leaf
truck coming...
His head was crushed... both eyes gone... and
his face and head were scarred to a point that
would have put Darth Vader to shame. But
somehow he "survived"...
We were friends BEFORE this happened, and we were
in school together from kindergarten (when the accident happened) all the way
to high school graduation. He was, and if he's still around, IS my oldest friend.
I'll NEVER forget the day he came back to school from the hospital. What was once a good-looking and popular kid, had been transformed into something both horrific and pitiable. I think it traumatized me pretty good (I've got a horror of becoming disabled myself...)
The last time I saw him was when I was about 26 (ten years ago, he left town and I haven't heard from him since...)
I remember him talking about suicide and how
he'd already attempted it once.
I haven't seen him since, and I wouldn't bet money
on his still being alive, truth be told...
He wasn't a happy camper.
Now, "Jim" (real name changed) never had a lot
of confidence, unsurprisingly. He wasn't exactly a
babe magnet, given the huge scars all over his body and face, and obvious empty eye
sockets filled in with plastic prostheses (he couldn't open his eyes, but they bulged grotesquely and were constantly oozing mucus...)
Since I assume he's either dead or still single and will probably stay that way... add that to the fact that he was brought up as a conservative Christian...
He has nothing but an eternity of CELIBACY to look forward to.
He didn't even remember what being sighted was like, the last time I saw him... so I assume he'll be blind in the afterlife also? Maybe he'll end up in the "blind ghetto" part of the afterlife (like attracts like!)
Is this not a logical assumption? (The afterlife being a reflection of your experiences in C1, as I understand it...)

B-man