Hey Lydia,

Sorry to hear of your lost. We are definatly here to help you if we can. Well there are many ways and unfortunatly quick results don't happen often, don't let me put you off though. If you are looking for quick contact possibly try a medium but please be careful for most seem to be fake. However this path if you choose to take it will open up a whole new side, a new way and also many more wonderful things undescribable, and yes you will be able to contact the Afterlife.

As for contacting the Afterlife there are many ways, imagination (explain later) as well as OBE, phasing, intentions and desires and dreams. There are more i'm sure but i'm limited by my interests and experience. If OBE is your desire then I'm about to post on another thread with a small guide for starting, they are what I enjoy the most, well did at first but i enjoy every experience I can get chucked at me now lol.

The imagination method is simply lay down and relax (helps but don't have too) and breathe deeply and just feel nice and relaxed and start to imagine your somewhere your boyfriend and you use to go? Imagine your there by yourself, then imagine he comes in. At this point don't worry about not seeing anything, its not important or a requirement. Next see him come to you and start a conversation and imagine his replys. You may feel you are making this up but forget about that for now, just concentrate on the experience. By doing this you are allowing him to come through and may notice him saying something before you have had time to think of what hes going to say! Or he will say something to you unexpected, these are good signs. This may take a couple of attempts and don't worry if you find it hard to believe at first, we all did who are here, it is a journey with many things to overcome which is why it takes time, I haven't overcome the proof side yet! You are not alone.

Also set your desires/intentions for him to visit you in your dreams. Now you really have to place intent, use emotions, make it real. It may take days/weeks/months for it to happen but keep up this intent, plus it is hard for us to remember out dreams but it will come soon. You will know, I can't explain how, it's just a feeling that you have been visited, that it wasn't a normal dream.

Many of us have had experiences on all sorts here so don't be afraid to ask any questions as all, I'm sure others here will be able to help more but hope this helps to begin with and hope good things come soon. Were a friendly place here and open our arms to new people so I would like to on behalf welcome you and once again let you know if we can help we will.

Ryan

[color=Teal][/color]well its nice to know that people care about one another ive been on this site everyday almost prob mostly cuz i feel lonely and its nice to know that people are feeling how i feel and sharing the same curiuosity. i really hope i contact him one way or another mediums are just so ridiculously expensive! and theres really none around here and im not about to do the over the phone contact i guess i would like to do it myself and really learn the art of cantacting the other side god theres so many things i would like to say to him mostly that i loved him. HMM... see what im confused about is i remember watching "white noise" and making a joke about if one of us were to past we would def try to contact one another and so far nothings happened? maybe you could help me understand why

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I don't know why nothing's happening, but just from my reading here and elsewhere, there are many variables.  You can only do something about a few of them.  One is to sort of increase your vibrational frequency.  Weird eh?  (bear in mind I'm a newbie too, so someone will probably explain this better than me/correct me).  Anyway, I've noticed that I experience more spiritual activity (communications, synchronicities) if I get out of depression and lift my mood somehow.  I do this by getting involved with fun activities, other people, and by remembering really good things about the deceased.  For some reason, this puts us closer to their frequencies, and allows things to happen more easily.  It's not easy, but I think it will increase your chances. 

I don't recall if you mentioned when he died, but I've read sometimes it takes a while for them to be in touch.  Perhaps (I dunno) this has to do with their circumstances at death, where they are, all sorts of stuff.  Time is not the same for them (they may not even experience the dimension we know as time), so he may not be keeping track of your time frame so well and just not gotten around to it.  So, I wouldn't imagine that he just isn't going to do it or doesn't care - it's probably something else.

Personally, I'm buying books on the subject to learn more.  Many books are mentioned on this site and board.  take care.

Hey Lydia,

What your experiencing is perfectly normal, it takes practise and can happen really quick or it may take awhile. I'm glad your going for it, sounds good so far!

Aboutr making it all up, its only something you can prove to yourself and it takes so time so don't concern yourself with that yet, it will hold you back, just believe and try to get through.

Also if you want to tell him you love him, go for it anywhere anytime he will know and its better than grieving as this can hold spirits back in the lessons they have to do when they cross over.

Your doing well!

Also i dont think it takes years, but im no expert on this, sometimes it might, usually its weeks or months. It depends how the spirit past, still keep trying as you can still get through and its good practice! Specially if you want to open up to all this which I think you do from what you said?

Ryan

Also Bud_S you are right from what I have read, i'm no expert either but we are made up of energy which is in constant motion and vibrating, (I have to thank Vicky for this lol, she explained it to me before and i remember how she said it exactly) and so as you know the higher we vibrate, the higher our frquencies are the higher up we are, like spirits and when you OBE your astral body is vibrating more, i know you know this already but going back to my point, negative energy (depressed, feeling down) slows down our vibrational rate, (bad spirits more dense, more affect here on C1) and when we feel really good our vibrational energies rise opening us up to the other side better!

Ryan