Hello everyone. I hope that I am not bothering anyone. I am here because my father passed away just two days ago. I do believe very much that in reality there is no such thing as death. However, do to the fact that I am human, I am grieving very much so. I would like to ask all of you to help me. I want to know how to contact him. I am trying to experiment with EVP & by taking photos and such. However, I am problably doing it wrong. Also, I have been thinking about finding a medium, but to be honest, money is very tight now. Because of this, I know I can not afford one. I really want to open myself to the other side. Maybe I sound silly by this need, but it is what makes me feel stronger. Can any of you help me with this matter? I talk to dad all of the time. I just want to have a little bit more of a deeper connection. I need that. Also I am still feeling grief for the loss of my grandmother nearly 5 years ago. I want to find a way to contact her as well. Thank you all very much. Please take care~  Dan H.

I have limited experience but I agree with recoverer and have also found that deep depression from grieving seems to thwart the efforts of the deceased to move along and your efforts to contact.  This seems to be a fine balance.  I don't have any experience with purposeful communications, only accidental ones, but the common thread for them was that I was in a relaxed, nearly hypnotic state and centered my thoughts and sometimes verbal communication around how much I loved them, rather than my own needs for comfort.  then it just seemed to happen.  Once I received some positive feedback and resolution, I didn't continue to pursue more and more, though I wanted it badly.  I felt this would have distracted both of us from our paths, one being in this world, the other being somewhere else afterlife. Like recoverer said, "....except whatever result you obtain"  I think this is very important for the balance of our existence here and knowledge of there.

So anyway, I guess the summary of this is to be open mentally, try not to get so deeply depressed that you shut down, and look for synchronicities (noteworthy coincidences) that may give you clues as to when and where to communicate.  I believe in strong geographic attachments for the departed, so being where we spent a lot of time together has helped me.  Oh, here's a good one, pay attention to little kids (~3 yo) too, they sense things sometimes that are very interesting, and you might find out if any departed person you know is still hanging around.  I don't mean asking them anything direct or planting notions about ghosts in their heads, just listen to what they say about stuff.  Like if you say "hey, who moved this pillow over here?" you might get an unusual response.

Lastly, imho I think part of grieving is not curable by any communications.  The ache of missing their personality is very real because you shared this world with them as a physical being, which they are no longer.  Even though their spirit is off on another adventure somewhere, there is still you here in this world without them, and for myself, that doesn't go away.  It just diminishes down to a steady ache that is part of the burden of this world - of being human.  I've gotten tremendous life-changing reassurance and comfort from communicating and signs, and I value it immensely, but there is no amount that will make that last little bit of ache go away.  This goes back to balance I guess.  Again, just my opinion.  good luck to you, and I'm sorry for your loss.

I want to thank all of you for your replies. I appreciate them all very much. I have to say that I understand and agree. It just makes sense. Anyway, I never used to really believe in a lot of the spiritualistic ways, but now I do very much. Ever since my grandmother passed away nearly five years ago, I have grown to realize that it is very real. I just want to become more intune with it. I would like to learn about OBEs and such. Also, I know that most people go through what I am now experiencing. I know that I really need to give my father time to find his path on the other side. I talk to him all of the time now. I really feel that our relationship is even better. Maybe it sounds silly, but I think to all of you, it problably makes sense. Thanks for your help. I am sure I will be writing more here as well as come here to read what everyone is doing. Bye~