Have you ever asked your daughter why she doesn't like you? It seems to me that would be the first step towards getting this resolved.

With Love,
Mairlyn

My daughter only phones home when she's in trouble. Not unusual, just a phase.

If your wife spoiled your daughter it'll take her a little while to realize that she's missing something by not being closer to you. She probably has some personal ideas about your not being the person that she would prefer you to be - which has nothing to do with anything except her own inner feelings. This can happen when we don't respond to tragedies the way others expect us to.

Sometimes all we can do is to love, be available, see to the necessities of life, and let kids find their way. Eventually she will see though her inner smokescreen and discover that it was just an internal soap opera.

To learn that we are creating our own problems, suspicions and hassles with others can be a very hard lesson to learn, but a necessary one all the same. Then she will be able to see you and appreciate you as you are. Meanwhile, just be there for her, and recall that your value is that you gave her life, and that you care about her, whether or not she is presently able to return the feelings.

dave

She may well have some repressed memories/feelings from that former life..perhaps, from a child's point of view, a sense of abandonment.
And now, in this life, she is reacting to those same emotions, without even realizing it.
Does she know her own history?  That is, in this life?

Does she know that her aunt is her mother and her bio father is unknown?

If she does, at what age did she gain this knowledge?