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A moment for Chumley
Sep 29^th, 2005 at 10:27am

Dearest people on this forum:

Chumley has suffered a terrible loss. His cousin has shot himself. He has asked the forum to help him by doing a retrieval and to email him with any personal replies.

I will join the rest of you in a moment of respect and appreciation here that Chumley has shared his loss on our forum. My prayers are with him and his family. I personally am willing to attempt a retrieval for his cousin and I know others of you will.

Please join me, any of you who wishes to help Chumley, who needs our love.

love, blink

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Touching Souls Super Member Offline LOVE IS ALL, SHINE YOUR LIGHT THAT OTHERS MAY SEE Posts: 1966 Metaline Falls, WA Gender:	Re: A moment for Chumley Reply #1 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 10:59am I will join you Blink. Love, Mairlyn
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Vicky YaBB Administrator Online Afterlife Knowledge Member Posts: 2170 Colorado Gender:	Re: A moment for Chumley Reply #2 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 11:11am I will join to send Chumley peace of mind, comfort, and contentment.
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LaffingRain Super Member Offline Choose this Day Posts: 5249 Arizona Gender:	Re: A moment for Chumley Reply #3 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 1:48pm consider it done Chumley!
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Willowheart

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Re: A moment for Chumley
Reply #4 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 2:05pm

Chumley,

I only joined this forum last night, but I've done some reading in here over the last month. I hope you don't mind a stranger coming in during this terrible time for you, but I too send all the love and caring that I can, to you and to your family.

When I was 27, my 29 year old cousin took her own life, leaving behind 2 little sons. Between the pain and the anger that I felt, I could barely function. Much of the anger was self-directed: I kept going over and over the "if only I had (done this, said that, reached out, etc.)" It took a very long time to finally move past the anger and the blaming. As far as the pain, I have to admit that sometimes I still feel a deep terrible sorrow, even though it's now 34 years since this happened.

So, I send you love.

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Reply #5 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 2:22pm

Tell me how it goes.
*NOTE* I WAS NOT SEEKING ATTENTION!!!
I was unbalanced between rationality and
emotionality. (Division theory, remember?) I had just gotten the news a half hour previously.
AND... I WAS NOT SEEKING "PROOF" OF YOUR CLAIMS. This isn't about me, its about someone
else this time (self-centered bastard that I am.)
I was hoping that maybe... just maybe... I'd
have something nice to tell his mother at the
funeral (more likely just the next time I see her,
as I won't be able to make the funeral... it's out
of state and I won't be able to get the time off
more than likely.)
His mother is into Native American spirituality, but
is married to a conservative Christian (rotsa ruck
for her getting comfort from HIM, although he's
a great guy, really...)
I DID overreact to Spitfire's rather callous response. But hey, he's just a little boy. That's what 18-year-olds are. Pigs oink. Cows moo. 18-year-olds want to show you how "cool" and "hip" they are... hell, I was that age myself once.
So I lost my temper, what the hey. No biggie.
I also shouldn't have said you all suck, either. I was pi$$ed, that all.
BALANCE between rationality and emotion... my
new life project. Balance = Integrity.
*****************
Need any details on my cousin? Such as the reasons why he did it (I know why he did, this had been a long time coming. But, I'd rather not
post them in a public forum... seems disrespectful
to me... a more private format perhaps? Let me know!)
And DO tell me how it goes! If you meet him, tell
him his cousin Brendan from Montana sent you... and tell him that I
don't judge him for what he did. (There was a time when I came close to doing it myself.)

Thanks again,
Chumley

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Re: A moment for Chumley
Reply #6 - Sep 29^th, 2005 at 4:42pm

Hi Chumley,

My sincere condolences to you and your family. I, too had a cousin (female) who shot herself so I really do understand what you are going through.

Late this morning, EST, I began reading on the PE forum. I had not even got to this forum yet when I got sleepy. I left the computer on the page I was reading at the time and went into the living room and laid down on the sofa to rest. As I was waking up, I saw someone. I posed an inward question about this scene but it faded out and I opened my physical eyes. I was in a complete state of shock when I came back to the computer and read the posts concerning your cousin. The image of the man I saw kept coming back to me and I decided to try and follow up on that before posting anything. Unfortunately the noise factor, read: kids in my apt. building out of school, made that difficult so I will try later.

Chumley, I will be happy to pm you with what I have seen so far just to see if there is a match if that is what you want. If not, then I will still follow it up and post it elsewhere. The thing is that the more comments you add to this thread, the more it matches! This does not in any way mean that it is your cousin. It could be anyone. I don't know who it is.

Please let me know what you want me to do. There is nothing I saw that could not be posted here but there were a couple of things that are most likely symbolic. I am merely respecting your request for some privacy.

There is a very strong wave of love and concern that just keeps growing; from the members of your physical family to the members of this board. It is coming in from all over the world. Think about it.
In my experience, this is one of the most powerful forces there is. All the best to you.

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blink Ex Member	Re: A moment for Chumley Reply #8 - Sep 30^th, 2005 at 9:01am I'm grateful to participate in the kindness expressed on this thread. I've saw some of you very briefly "out there" yesterday, images moving very quickly through my mind. love, blink
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mystic_dreamer

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Reply #9 - Sep 30^th, 2005 at 11:15am

We are all human and to lash out during times of loss is all too natural.
My deepest thoughts, prayers, love and understanding are with you at this time Chumley.
I will try to find your cousin when I go to sleep tonight (the most likely time in my day for that to happen) and I will give him your message for you.....maybe we will all meet up together and be able to surround him with mega tons of love and peace to help him carry thru on his journey.
Much love and comfort to you Chumley.
(ps....if I should find him, I will let you know the outcome)

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Re: A moment for Chumley
Reply #10 - Sep 30^th, 2005 at 12:08pm

Yes, I'm saying the same thing as Mystic, that I will report if I find out anything about your cousin. sometimes I don't get anything at all when I try. just wanted you to know we are all thinking about you and him, so that you can stop worrying. one thing I'm very sure of, its a loving universe in the end, so I'm not feeling your grief and sadness over not being able to say goodbye to him. I'm hoping someday you will be able to meet up with him yourself and rooting for you. do let us know if it should occur. love, alysia

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