Brenden, I am really sorry of your loss. And the content in this thread makes me feel awful...it shouldn't be this way. I know that I would be totally devastated if I had received this kind of feed back at a time in my life as this. I wasn't going to post here but go to the other thread...however, I haven't seen the other yet and don't know what is in it, therefore this might not be appropriate there.
I don't know if this is going to help you but I will try.....as a few others have said here already, you can reach your cousin all by yourself. As far as retreivals go, I don't know anything about them, but there are people who do them and successfully at that. Retreivals are 'real' and in vice versa as well.....my dog died a few years ago and came back to retreive me......isn't that just somethin'!
Just sit back, relax and focus on thoughts of your cousin and then just start talking as if he were right there in the physical form beside you. When you are talking, keep your inner ear open and listen to his replies. I guess it sounds weird, but you will hear him speaking with you but you have to open yourself up inside to hear him. And believe in his voice when you hear it...don't shrug it off as nothing. Another way you can communicate is thru your sleep....before going to sleep you can focus on him and you may very well have an opportunity to converse that way as well. We seem to be incredibly sensitive to the afterlife when we are asleep.
And you know what? He can contact you as well.....pay attention to anything that might seem strange like, a feeling you are being watched, or some else is in the room with you...that kind of stuff. At those times you can try communicating too.
I hope this helps....I don't always say the right things at times and end up making things worse....but I hope that this has given you some help.....at least to show you that your presence is a welcome and much loved part of this board. So don't take off. I like to read your posts as does everyone else here.
And for what it matters, I couldn't figure out the chatroom thing either....had nothing but grief over it.....AND for the life of me, I couldn't figure out how to get my pic on here and ended up getting Alysia and Shirley to do it for me. For the love of God.
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Hi, M.D.
As far as the feedback goes, I expected worse. It
DOES appear that many of you here are DEADLY SERIOUS about this stuff. Skeptical though I am, I felt that you good folks
might be able to facilitate some verification of the
afterlife, for the benefit of Pat's mother and grandmother (She's 79 and in poor health. She's
NOT dealing with this well.)
This ISN'T for, or about, me. Should you find verifiable information, let me tell you... it will ROCK MY WORLD.
I'll have to re-evaluate everything I've ever believed in. It WON'T be pleasant for me, lemme tell ya.
But, Truth is Truth. And if the afterlife IS Truth, and that knowledge confirms... that I helped Pat (who NEEDED/or NEEDS help)... or his family, then I'll have made a step toward justifying my existence in this world.
So people can say what they're gonna say. Titmouse has, admittedly, bolstered my long-standing nihilism (which has caused all of you here such pleasure since I first appeared in your
lives.)
But others of you have helped chip away at it some. I guess we never stop learning, do we?
Besides... given that vile feedback exists here on Earth, I'd better get used to dealing with it... I may be dealing with it for a VERY long time.
As Hermes Trismegistus postulated (according to legend, and as you know many legends are firmly rooted in fact...)
"As Above, So Below."
Many Thanks,

B-man

true Ryan...I found the beginning of wisdom is not to make an opinion, nor a statement...but rather to ask a question...and better than that, to ask a legitimate question...that is even harder to do. love, alysia

Good for you Brendan.

With Love, Mairlyn