You know Alysia, I was going to post on another thread about this very issue.

Through my life I too have been confronted by souls locked in the darkness of selfishness, they can not see beyond there own needs, the only thing on there minds is,how dose it affect me or whats in it for me.This selfishness can take many forms,but at its darkest it has not one thought for another only for its self.Many here on mother earth suffer this affliction.

We are here in the process of learning to balance ourselves,most souls following a spiritual path are looking to serve,we reach out our hands in gesture, as to say come to me I will save you, I will take away your pain.The problem for us is this thing called balance,we forget to save ourselves and in so doing we forget to value ourselves we have no boundaries.From this we are easy targets,until we get the lesson.Now what could the universe be showing us sending souls that are so self orientated to us.

Balance is having boundaries, its knowing when enough is enough.That if a soul just takes and takes there is a problem with this soul.be it sister brother lover or child.When we stand tall and say enough I have given enough, our lesson is completed and then there lesson commences. What a wonderful system we get our balance back and they begin to grow from someone maybe the first one saying no.

For, forgiveness to take place there has to be one key eliminate and that key is to acknowledge our own part, to own that we allowed these things to take place. No one can take from you what you weren't willing to give. Then once we take responsibility for our part we can then forgive. And then through this forgiveness we understand that the soul is still growing and may not as yet  have turned to the light. But as with all thing eventually the soul will turn to the light, as my higher self once told me in the end they all come to the light.

Your journey with your sister, is one way you are still showing her your love. When this meeting took place I can assure you ,you where merged with your higher self this is where the power came from in your words. The higher self was trying to guide her and gave you the Divine blessing, of  seeing how these things work.

You know Alysia, I was going to post on another thread about this very issue.
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Lights, I wanted to mention something very synchronistic is happening on the board, what I want to call the collective mind here, don't know if more than you and I and Vicky and Ryan are tuning into the collective consciousness here but it amazes me, that it's not just me. that you say above, you were going to post on this subject is what I mean about the collective area..same thing happened with Vicky here, and I beat her to it! not that I'd mind someone else post what I want to say....very much appreciate what happens here..
I decided your post was running thru my head today after I already responded, it was still inside of me and I came back for a 2nd read and glad I did as it really is profound what you are saying and just what this board needed my humble opinion. I mean, you pegged me right on! you must be into psychology, or spiritual psychology, not everyone here is into that.
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We are here in the process of learning to balance ourselves,most souls following a spiritual path are looking to serve,we reach out our hands in gesture, as to say come to me I will save you, I will take away your pain.The problem for us is this thing called balance,we forget to save ourselves and in so doing we forget to value ourselves we have no boundaries.From this we are easy targets,until we get the lesson.Now what could the universe be showing us sending souls that are so self orientated to us.
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right. self oriented. yes, I take too much on myself, always have..I understand this perfectly that this is my question to myself.
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Balance is having boundaries, its knowing when enough is enough.That if a soul just takes and takes there is a problem with this soul.be it sister brother lover or child.
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yes, agreed. balance is important. I see scales everywhere which measure balance. i think of emotional balance, my energy within balance. yes, I never knew when I had had enough. I understand boundaries, for when my children were teenagers, I set one boundary they must not cross; they must never cuss at me disrespectfully no matter how much they felt justified (teenagers!) arg!! it was kind of like the last straw when that started up and when I said NO! it quit! ha ha! of course you don't know how many decimals of energy I had to raise my voice to to get their attention.
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When we stand tall and say enough I have given enough, our lesson is completed and then there lesson commences.
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yes, this happened between mom and I. I died to the relationship, actually went obe while I was dying to it. i had given everything I could and I was bone dry. then it was up to her.
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What a wonderful system we get our balance back and they begin to grow from someone maybe the first one saying no.
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yes, we define where to draw the line, how much abuse is enough abuse? only the person can decide, then that causes a shift, a change in focus. I'm writing this down because it's my journey and I thought maybe someone else could relate and I'm so glad you wrote this post!
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For, forgiveness to take place there has to be one key eliminate
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I think u meant key element
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and that key is to acknowledge our own part, to own that we allowed these things to take place. No one can take from you what you weren't willing to give. Then once we take responsibility for our part we can then forgive.
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yes, the hard part is owning you create your own reality, your own circumstances by perhaps reacting. the main thing is not to shift the blame to someone else..then forgiveness, or to give as before the upset, is possible. the church used to call this repenting. but I like taking responsibility instead and not blaming others better to think of it that way.
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And then through this forgiveness we understand that the soul is still growing and may not as yet  have turned to the light. But as with all thing eventually the soul will turn to the light, as my higher self once told me in the end they all come to the light.
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yes, we all do, I believe this, that all roads will meet in a common area, the light. but not all can believe this as it implies we are all equal. I think we are all equal, but each of on a different page of our own book.
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you are kind to respond to my post with such precision and insight. I know some of us put in a lot of time on such a board, and the time you have taken to help me see what I now see more clearly than ever, is much appreciated! love and light, it will return to you, your gift, if I have to personally deliver it! love, alysia

Lights said:  I have seen entire posts with pictures and full text roll past me through my  astral connection.
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ok!!!   we are all different what we see, feel, pick up. now I have rarely seen pictures concerning this board and text roll by, <but> a phenonmenon is occuring that I can <hear> a post as it's being written either by me, or another thread! then I sometimes come here to find the topic already underway..I'm like trying to brush my teeth or feed the dog and this entire dialogue is going on in my head, and I'm saying, wow, that was an excellent word combination for that idea, etc ect.
or Vicky or Ryan or Mike or somebody will say, yea, I saw you last nite in my obe or my dream and I'll say well, I guess I get around a lot...lol...maybe because I think about the others a lot and it's reaching them inside the collective areas.
yes, it's exciting the shift in consciousness, there is a lot more going on under the surface than meets the eye, for sure!

that would be fun to dream in cartoons...it happens to me on occassion that I have a cartoon, but a message attached to it. the guides love to pull my legs, tease me out there, they are a bunch of clowns for sure, but they themselves have not taken on cartoonish features, unless the monster cartoon I saw once time was a guide..possibility I just thought of! ha ha! thanks, alysia

Hi there Jean! love you!      miss u when ur not here!

Jean....I finished it!!!!!!   I feel so good to finish. sometimes wanted to put it in the trash, but decided if people want to do that, put it in the trash   that will be up to them   I worked on it 6 to 10 hours daily for almost 2 years, and I didn't notice the time went by.
now I can start on the next book and the guides said this one will be easier! ha! just let me catch my breath first. mucho gracious for your kind comments that have helped me so much. love, alysia