Lights, this thing we call integration, of all our parts, our conflicts of belief, true, seems to go on and on. but I've noticed that it seems to get easier over the years, which fly by for me as I am not young, although I am not old either insofar as years go. the integration we talk about, we may not agree always, what it is when we are not the same people we were, say, a few years back, that is all we know, that we act differently, and the experiences keep coming, yet in more positive ways than before.

I speak for myself, but I do not feel different than others..I think it is a common human journey to integrate. as such even retrievals I see as a mass integration. especially self retrievals. no secret there, that we gather and integrate ourselves within self retrievals.
what you said about being self creators is how we do it..a simple change of mind, and we are expressing something quite different than before. a dear friend of mine has this tag now and I want to put it here as it touched me and seems to explain what happens in that process of integration:
You have the capacity to choose what you think about. If you choose to think about past hurts, you will continue to feel bad. While it's true you can't change the effect past influences had on you once, you can change the effect they have on you now.
-Gary McKay, Ph.D.
does anyone think maybe this is all there is? the choice we have in the now moment?
love and hugs, alysia