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Reply #15 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 9:56pm
 
Shocked AWESOME AWESOME stuff bluejasn Shocked
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Reply #16 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 11:07pm
 
Thanks create,

Im glad these papers are going to use to someone other than me,, it helped me just to write it
I was inspired to finally write it the past 2 months,, but its been floating in my head for quite a while.  Theres more ill keep cutting and pasting until were caught up to the present.

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Reply #17 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 11:10pm
 
HUMAN NATURE NOT SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST

Survival of the fittest never has been the nature of man. I think it is a sickness to believe that

our nature is to think for ourselves and not care for other people to the point of letting them die

because they are not as fit as us to survive. In the animal kingdom I suppose it is survival of

the fittest as far as species are concerned. The danger however is people like to carry this

belief into human affiars. It is a scapegoat to all kinds of selfish actions we

all do and it is time this damaging belief came to an end. Lets go back to grade school,

remember not everything we were taught in class was a fact. Even though we rarely question

the things we learn growing up its a sad fact. If it was our nature to not care for those weaker than

us then we would just let the people caught in the recently tsunami die. Obviously because

they were unfit to survive, they have poorer technology no early warning detection, not enough

emergency service personnel, not enough clean water, hey they can all die then. To the millions

of people who were displaced and facing starvation and thirst, the world came together out of

compassion to help them out, expecting nothing in return. If human instinct was actually

survival of the fittest we would have have let those people all die because they are weak and

unfit to survive in this harsh world, no water? Tough luck, no food? Too bad not my problem

thats nature, its their time to die cause they are weak. Thankfull it didnt happen that way and

human nature came in and took over. If a small child fell out of a tree, you would without thinking

automatically react to try and catch and save it. That is our real instinct,.. If our instinct was survival of the

fittest, then I guess you would notice it fall and casually walk by. The idea of survival of the fittest

being our human nature has its draw backs in people having become conditioned to be cold and

feeling like we owe nothing to our fellow man. For example there is a video of a woman being

kidnapped from a parking lot of a shopping center. Two men jump out of the car and grab her

as people stand by and watch. What was going through their minds? You can bet their first

automatic response was to run and save the poor girl. Sadly however, our social mental conditioning

sets it. And we tell ourselves...its survival of the fittest. We can't be responsible for her, what if

we get hurt? We don't want to get hurt or involved in other people's problems, the risk is too great.

If that werent enough, in a parking lot full of witnesses no one even bothered to report it to police!

This is certainly human contioning at its lowest point. Heres the measure of nature vs conditioning.

Human nature is automatic, and occurs without thinking...that is compassion. Conditioning is when

your brain(ego) kicks in and says...."hey..whats in it for me? I have a lot to lose here I could get kidnapped too.

I don't want those scary people after me too." Though I am not advocating that people should try to

overpower those men who might have guns, they could have at least called the police!
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Reply #18 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 11:10pm
 
You speak about unconditional forgiveness, how about the worst type of people who committed inhumane atrocities against humanity like Hitler? Should those people be forgiven too, don't they deserve their just punishment?

All fear and anger is a cry for help.

There is no one in this world, regardless of what they have done to each other who does not deserve forgiveness. The very idea of forgiving some people and not others, or drawing an arbitrary line where forgiveness ends is not Unconditional love but an act of fear that they are bad creations. A perfect being does not create bad creations nor does it make mistakes. Hitler's punishment may be the guilt he feels over the millions he killed from a false feeling of superiority rather than a divine punishment from God.

Hitler's punishmet would be in congruity to Universal Law, he will experience and equal and opposite reaction to what he has done,  and this may be a psychological reparation, he will be made fully aware of what his actions have done to so many and how he has hurt so many, he will not be punished as an arbitrary act from God nor will he be punished forever. Hitler acted out from fear, his fears like any human are rooted in the lack of self love and this lack of self love and acceptance manifests itself with a protective layer of ego, his ideas of personal superiority was a manifestation of his fearful ego. Once we become fully aware and responsible souls the hardest thing we can do is recognize that we hurt another person. Hurting others is easy when we have blinders on to impair the hurt we cause from our actions, but in the world beyond these blinders(our ego) doesnt exist, hence he will realize what he has done with full awareness of how much pain he has caused each individual persecuted,..if anything the pain of knowing he has inflicted so much pain on others is worse than a hell of fire and brimestone, it is a hell of knowning how far he has failed to come close to expressing unconditional love, which is our creators will for us on earth. How we go about it, or whether we even choose to go about it is up to us.. We are like kids in a preschool, we make mistakes, some people make BIG spiritual mistakes, some make smaller mistakes, but a loving parent will always forgive the mistakes with the wisdom that mistakes are what causes us to grow. We all make mistakes, we all do bad things, some a lot worse than others, but without this experience, without the experience of relativity,love and fear, hot and cold, left and right, large and small, here and there, we would have no opportunity to make mistakes, with no place to go and nothing to do, existence would be a single, static, motionless awareness. But it is my belief that we do have mistakes, and we do have the choice to learn from  them, whether we choose to learn and change is up to us, the Universal law of reaction will always show us when we are going astray with our fearful mistakes it is an automatic nudge for us to put us back into the right direction. However I would urge everyone to take piece of mind in knowing that in the end an Unconditionally Loving Creator forgives even the worst of mistakes made by his creation because the creator sees the big picture of evolution and knows that mistakes are part of the experience to building an evolving soul. Just as we as a world evolved greatly as a result of the devestations caused by World War 2, so does a fearful soul like Hitler evolve by acknowledging and coming to grips with his  personal devestations. Perhaps perfection is not always doing the right thing, perhaps in the smaller picture thats what perfection appears to be.

Trying to live by a standard far above what we are currently capable of and being punished if we fail. But I would argue that in the bigger picture, that perfection is accepting the neccessity of Good and Bad, and knowing they are vital to each other. Perfection is blessing the good and bad. Perfection is unconditional love, unconditional love is knowing that the bad is neccessary for the good to know itself and blessing the bad for giving the good that opportunity. In the end everything and everyone is good and perfect created in the likeness of our creator. But perhaps like Shakespeare says "All the lifes a stage, and we are merely actors" Perhaps this time around we cast ourselves as the good guys because last time  we played the bad guys. And in coming onto the stage of life we caused ourselves to forget all the good we know in each other, so that we may fully experience the dynamics of the 2 polar differences of Love and Fear in their fullest expression. Perhaps all the Bad guys ever needed was for some good guy to remind them of all the good they had in them.  In the end, it is in the nature of our creator to forgive all his creation, . The only question is will the creation overcome all he has done and choose to accept respnsibility for how much hurt he has caused and then learn to forgive himself of it? When we come to full awareness of the hurt we have caused it is the most difficult thing in the world to forgive ourselves.

We must realize that some bad events are intended to happen not by God but by humanity. Since we are given a free will are are free to do what we choose without interference. Hitler for example was a reflection of what was going on in our world at the time, it revealed to the world in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS how Spiritually unevolved we still were, while being very technologically evolved with ehough weapons to destroy our world. Hitler could not have existed in a world where humanity found its peaceful nature. Hitler words could only be taken to heart by individuals and a nation who harbored incredible hatred, anger, resentment, fear ,jealously and racism towards others. Hitler's words could only be heeded by a world where racial superiority was not only accepted by commended by the masses. The heartless massacre of 20 million people was in short a wake up call to the world to let us all know just how far we had actually evolved. It challeneged our status quo in which we were at the time too content with. It challenged our currently morale beliefs at the time (especially racism in the United States) our cultural stories (survival of the fittest) and our religious beliefs( many nazis including the SS also believed in Jesus Christ). Sometimes an individual like Hitler will come along and give the world a wake up call, that is what Hitler did, not intentionally but nonetheless it was a wakeup call to the rest of the World.

It was a wake up call to African Americans who were still second class citizens with no voting priveledges and went to fight and die in the white man's war.

It was a wake up call to the Women in the United States who realized they could take over the factory jobs their men held before the war and do an equal job.

It was a wake up call to Japan to show that their brand of fanatic Nationalism, racism and inhumanity towards fellow humans would not be accepted by the world at large.

It was a wake up call the the Germans that said Racism, and Anti Semetism would no longer be accepted in this world.

It was a wake up call to Chinese Americans who were herded into gathering posts(Santa Anita Race Track) and internment carmps  along with the Japanese because all us Asians looked alike to the white Americans.

It was a wake up call to all Patriotic Japanese Americans including the 442nd who fought valiantly for a country that considered their kind not only 2nd class citizens but possible spies for the enemy.  Interestingly enough the Neisei 442nd was the most decorated Unit of all American Units fighting in World War 2, for bravery valour and courage under fire. 

It was a wake up call to the Scientists at Los Alimos who created the first nuclear bomb not knowing if the fission chain reaction might continue forever and destroy our entire world.

It was a wake up call to the world to know that man now possed the technology to create weapons that could detroy the world many times over.



We all know Hitler was a brutal dictator who killed tens of millions in inhumane ways. The more important question is what was the world like before Hitler came along and shook things up?

In 1939 - 80 Years after the Civil war, blacks were still little better than slaves in the United States. Blacks had no voting rights, separate faucilities for restrooms, restaurants, schooling, and countless every day activities.

In 1939 and in WW2 black soldiers who inlisted in the Army were generally not allowed to fight, with few exceptions, they were given jobs as truck drivers, and cooks.  They were only given jobs as engineers when they could prove that they were "intellegent" enough to operate "complicated" machinery.

In 1939- Although Jesus preached about being brothers to everyone, the popular majority of Christians and Catholics still treated blacks, chinese, jews, and any non whites with racism and prejudice and disregarded that portion of Jesus's message.  Interestingly enough, even though it was accepted for white cathlolics to feel superior to blacks, jews, and chinese, Catholics themselves were looked upon by the majority Protestants as being lower class citizens and people in the eyes of God as well.

In 1939 Racism and Anti Semetism was a common household thing to the majority of white families in the US, in both the North and South.

In 1939 Women were also treated somewhat as second class citizens, they were not found in professional jobs such as Doctors, Lawyers, or even factory work. Women were far from being seen as equal to men in every respect.- Without world war 2 and women proving themselves in the munitions factory that armed the Allied soldiers, how much longer would it have taken women to enter the work force?

In 1939 Racism towards asians Chinese Americans and Japanese Americans caused them to be placed into Concentration camps. The Japanese were thought of as spies for the Rising Sun while the Chinese people were also tossed in because the white people couldnt really tell the difference between the two and didnt care much to find out. The German Americans however were free to go about their daily business including many German Americans sympathetic to the Nazi cause,because racism went by the color of your skin not nationality or allegiance to country. 

In 1939 Germany and Europe Hating Jews was nothing new or extra ordinary it was a customary thing for the past millenium. It was popular to hate Jews, Gypsies, Gays and Handicapped people.

In 1939 Germans held an belief in the superiority of their blood, they believed they were a master race because.

In 1939 Western World blonde hair and blue eyes was thought to be superior to all other variations. This belief is still somewhat held today but we have come a long way since then.

In 1939 Japanese held a fanatical sense of superiority over the other asian races and even white races, they believed they were better than Chinese, Korean, Phillippino,Thai or any other western race.

These are just a few choice examples of what the world was like before World War 2 brought these issues to the attention of the world. People lived their

lives accepting the status quo as ok and never gave a second thought that there should be any change to their system of living. Then Hitler came along

and shook things up and as a result of his henious actions and World War 2....

Woman soon knew that they were the equal of men in the work force, this started the trend of women working and stepping away from the housewife role.

African Americans and Japanese Americans who fought Valiantly in World War 2 demanded their equal respect from the white majority for having fought bravely and died for their country.

Anti Semetism in the US ceased to become common place among the whites. A greater Tolerance for all races and religions was then taught to children.

Genocide of a race was agreed to no longer be tolerated in the world community.

A new nation Israel was created in Palestine which gave the Jews of the world a place to call home.

Japan gained a new found respect and admiration for the west. It was the doctrine of an American General during occupation and recovery

that guided Japans automotive industry into becoming a dominating factor in the worlds automotive industry.

It makes me think, without world war 2 would antisemetism be more prevailant today? Would blacks even have the right to vote? How much

longer would it have taken for women to enter the work force? Would racism towards asians living in the US still be commonplace? Would I

even be allowed to live in the United States, or would I even want to live in a country that is racist towards non whites? My conclusions is

sometimes the fastest way for the world to evolve as a whole is through war. This is because War brings up issues that the individual nations

like to keep quiet. War forces a nations dark secrets into the lime light, where peacetime forces the underpriveledged memebers of a nation

to go on living their daily lives and enduring spiritual injustice.

In history people like Hitler are sometimes needed to give the world a wake up call and show what evil can possess mens hearts. While

revealing Hitler's evil war causes our own evils and prejudices to surface into national and world attention that we previously ignored. Just like our character can only be forged through difficult

circumstances, the character of the human race can quickly be fine tuned through world wide calamity. How far have we come as a nation since

Hitler? How far have we spiritually evolved as a world? Sadly,for reasons of racial superiority, even today we don't live up to our word to stop Genocide.

Are we overdue for another calamity or world war that shakes up the earth in order to bring us closer together? Or do we now choose to evolve

willingly and take our past mistakes more seriously.


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We can only love our neighbor to the extent we love our self. We are already extending to our neighbor how we feel about our self -- that is the problem to having no peace on earth. Most people are so filled with fear, low self esteem, anger, anxiety, lack and separation — that this is what we are giving to each other and perpetuating in this world we co-create.


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Friday, March 25, 2005

   
A Promise is never Forever

I propose that the human race stop making promises they can't keep. People somehow feel obligated to make false promises or don't understand themselves well enough to not make certain types of promises.  Promises are potentially dangerous because they set up an expectation that the words will be carried through.

All long term promises are trouble regardless of what the topic is love or business, contracts are broken  licenses are enulled. The biggest problem with making promises far into the future is that people are constantly changing their minds! Yep...the mind is a tricky thing we are swayed from one moment to the next by emotions, situations, circumstances that sometimes seem entirely out of our control. Call it the tides of life, chance, luck, fate whatever...we don't know how they will think or react from one moment to the next. Inevitably people end up changing their minds as new circumstances come along an old love from the past, the tragic loss of a partner, a new job opportunity across seas, or even something as simple as a stupid argument that sparks anger and frustration can cause an end to a promise. I think there is a more important question to ask ourselves in regards to promises. If someone has made you a promise and fails to keep it,...Why would you want them to keep it? Take the example of the relationship you have been in.that a promise was made and not lived up to. Perhaps your love interest found interest  elsewhere but months before had promised you a long loving future together. Why would you want your ex to live up to that promise if that is no longer their desire? What fun would it be to have someone who no longer shares the same feelings for you live up to a promise out of duty

Often I have heard friends and people everywhere on tv or in books talk about finding your "One True Love" anyone who has been even in 1 relationship taking the time to reflect on it with open eyes knows there is no such thing. Anyone who has open eyes and sees the appalling statistics of 50%+ divorce rates knows that is just  an illusion that is bound to cause more hurt than good in the long run.  Sorry friends, but we are not here on this earth to find our "one true loves" in the end our purpose has more to do with learning to like then love ourselves more and more. Only to the degree that we like/love ourselves can we unselfishly like/love to others. Only to the degree that we accept our faults, shortcomings, mistakes own up to them and eventually learn to forgive, accept and possibly one day laugh at them can we overlook the faults, shortcomings and mistakes of our friends and peers. There is a lot of danger in labels because each label we have we associate with an unconscious expectation.

For instance...many people associate a promise of "forever:" with emotional security. They think...well my boyfriend or girlfriend has promised me we will be together forever., then they feel safe to imagine about a future marriage, kids, pets, and a house. Soon the words "forever" take greater effect over the mind and we start getting a false sense of security on our relationships. There is really nore real security in relationships, even if you are married...just look at the statistics of how many married people cheat on their spouses, that on top of divorce will paint you a realistic picture about security even in our most sanctified of practices, marriage. The only security there is, is in knowing that relationships are inseure by HUMAN NATURE,.

But why are relationships by nature insecure? It all has to do again with the real reasons relationships exist.  By now I hope you have the courage to see them for what they are...opportunities. Yes thats right, relationships give us opportunities to experience preconceived ideas we had about ourselves that we would not have a way to experience without experiencing. Also it is about learning to love yourself. Think of how hard it drives home a lesson about self acceptance when the one person you trust and love the most leaves you because they found someone better. Wow, what damage it would do to the ego. Many people however miss this lesson, in fact the vast majority of people miss this lesson or opportunity to learn to like and love themselves and accept themselves to a greater degree. This is because they want a quick fix to the pain or they want to slowly drown out the pain by other methods,...other love interests, alcohol, drugs, tv, movies, books, friends, anything that will take their minds off a situation that makes no sense, anything to take their minds of the hurt. When we do this..sadly we miss a golden opportunity to accept and love ourselves to a greater degree. Then shortly after that we quickly seek to rebuild our bruised and battered egos,. our fragile egos once again gets broken! Again we sadly miss another golden opportunity to realize what damage our large egos do to us,. The observer of life's truth knows that all the pain we have from a failed relationship is caused solely by one thing....our own EGO, AKA our Pride.

And I was always taught pride was a good thing.

There are many reasons for why we have relationships, NONE of them have to do with finding our "ONE TRUE LOVE" or our "SOUL MATE" regardless of what prime time tv, pop music and movies have taught you.  Another purpose for relationships is to allow both parties to experience Forgiveness as illustrated in one of my favorite Children's fable about life, I hope you find it as insightful as I have.

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Reply #19 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 11:11pm
 
LOVE IS RESPECT

We can't disrespect someone and also love them at the same time. The idea is a contradictory. A sure sign that we have love for someone is if we have respect for that individual. When we treat an object or a person disrespectfully we have shown them fear. Some people think love and respect are two different things, and I have often heard it say in long relationships between a couple married for decades that the more important thing that kept them together all those years was mutual respect rather than love. They say love is important but without a healthy respect for your siginficant other your relationship will fail. This is a great observation offered by those who have managed such long lasting relationships. I agree completely with their idea of the importance of respect. However, I believe that respect is an aspect of love not something

different. The mistake we make is to associate those butterfly feelings of nervousness, and excitenment with love. When we meet someone new we feel a sense of excitement, we get nervous around the individual and wonder if they share the same feelings for us. We call all this being bitten by the love bug. That is why we're so confused by love when eventually it leads us atray and to do fearful insecure things. The truth is we were never in love, we were infatuated by a new person, and a new excitement. Excitement is not love, excitement is excitement and when we associate excitment with love and happiness we will always end up with depression. That is

the mistake we make in misunderstanding what love is, we think it is associated with excitement. Love CAN cause excitement but Love is NOT excitment. Fear can also

cause exitement but Fear is also NOT excitement. Once we get definitions straight in our head we will have less confusion and heartache over love.
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Reply #20 - Apr 22nd, 2005 at 11:12pm
 
Monday, April 04, 2005

So a few people have asked me about the Ego paper,..not so much any questions but more like "Did you write it?"  Yes I did,   These are ideas I've had from observing my life experiences, the life experiences of friends, family, books, internet articles, movies, song lyrics  etc from the past 6 years.    I'm writing it partially for myself too, to get these thoughts and ideas out of my head and on to paper so I can examine them.  In some cases Im learning more about these ideas as I write them., and after I write them more ideas connect to make sense and I get ideas for more articles.  Many of these articles are posted the day they were written.  There is no single idea that speaks to everyone so if you can take something from what is being written, great, if not I urge everyone to find their own truth, fearlessly, with the courage to question and abandon your preconditioned beliefs if they no longer hold a high enough loving truth for you.  The hardest part is having courage to search truth out for ourselves, very few people find the time, or have the courage to go against what they are told either from society or religion.  All people who set out to become self aware and challenge their limited beliefs end up with the same truths along the way.  I know as we dig more and more for truth lovingly we begin to abandon fear,   fear of death, fear of loneliness fear of rejection, fear of punishment from an angry creator.  This is because fear and love by nature can not coexist at the same time.  We are always motivated by one or the other in all the thoughts, words and actions we will ever express in life.  If we choose to believe in a fearful creator who will punish his beings for his sins if not forgiven,...then I think we have actually "missed the mark" of appreciating how infinitely greater and more loving and more forgiving our creator actually is.  In the end we always have only 2 choices, to love life or to fear what life may bring.  To love God or to fear God.  You can't love God and Fear God in the same breath and if the true meaning of love is to be fearless then how much have you actually loved God?  If life is best lived emotionally fearlessly then how much has our fear kept us from experiencing life? 


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I have written a lot about recognizing our Ego as the first step to eliminating it, but up until now I haven't written about how to get rid of the ego. The reason why I never wrote about this is because I had no idea know to do it! Haha...I only knew that it was important to recognize my ego as the first step and I assumed that honest recognition would eliminate ego. But thats not true, it hasn't. Being aware of my ego did however, have its obvious benefits. It weaken the ego's control over me because I was now more aware of my motivation behind each of my actions and thoughts. My new awareness forced me to become very honest about what was really motivating my thoughts and actions. Many of the things I used to think,say and do,..were selfish and self aggrandizing. After I became consciously aware of my ego, I was able to monitor the true motives behind the words that came out of my mouth and the actions that I took. This very act of recognizing ego forced me to automatically ditch my "fake niceness layer" I soon realized that part was even more fake than the false ego. It was the most unreal part of me...the part I used to cloak my ego with false good intentions to fool others.  Sometimes hoping and being afraid others don't see right through the fakeness and see my true intentions or my selfish ego intentions.

On a side note this is the very reason why I have said...once we become more self aware and gain awareness of our false egos, it is very difficult if not impossible for others who have no achieved the same level of self awareness to fool us with lies or "fake good intentions". This is because we now have the ability to see right through people. We now have acquired a gift, the gift to see through the "fake nice layer" and see right into the real motivation behind ones actions and words. Was that person's action motivated by fear(ego) or love?

I must say right now also that NOT ALL of our words and actions and thoughts are motivated by our EGO. Nope probably half to a majority of them but not all of them. The remaining thoughts, words and actions we take are not calculated thoughts or words to achieve our egos desire. These impulses are spontaneous thoughts which becomes words or actions motivated by LOVE. So an "average" person may have 60%-80% of their thoughts, words and deeds motivated by the selfish ego and have the remaning percentage motivated by unselfish love.

It just dawned on me 10 minutes ago how to get rid of the EGO after we realize and admit its influence over us. SELF LOVE! Yep self love/self acceptance,...the whole spiel I was talking about also in another section was the answer all along...Let me prove to you how and why.Have you ever met a person who has a glowing personality, easy to get along with and be around and can easily make fun of themselves? We all have the ability to make fun of ourselves to certain degree and not take life so seriously(I hope). But there are a few people out there small in number that can make fun of themselves about any aspect of their life. It just dawned on me that a person who can make fun of themselves all the time must accept themself to a high defree for who they are and what they have, in short, they must love themself! Because a person who doesn't like him or herself would never make fun of himself or herself, their ego is too fragile to risk it. He or she would actually look for compliments and try to be self aggrandizing. A completely self loving person can find humor in any situation in regards to themselves and has the flexibility to poke fun of anything,own their intellegence, their social status, their education, their looks, their clothing, their car, etc because love does not care about a bruised ego


Let me give you examples....



1a) A completely self loving person can make fun of themselves and has the flexibility to poke fun of anything,

their intellegence, their social status, their education, their looks, their clothing, their car, etc because

love does not care about a bruised ego.

1b) A person who hates the way they look will put themselves down in respect to the way they look in an effort

to get sympathy from others, and have others tell them how silly they are to say such a thing....basically..

its a fish for compliments! A person who hates the way they look to an even more serious degree with say

put themselves down even more in hopes that other people will actually agree with them so they can somehow

justify the anger towards the unjust world and possibly god who created them that way.



2a) A poor person who lives in a shack who is able to poke some humourus fun at the place they live in

is self loving and self accepting! They are okay with where they live and feel no shame to hide it!

2b) A poor person who lives in a shack who never invites guest over because he or she is afraid of what

others might think when they see how he or she lives has not accepted himself or herself and is less

loving of self. This person is living in ego fear and this person's ego is the root of the shame.

3a) A completely self loving person can make fun of their own intellegence, and will not care

if others poke fun also

3b) A person who is not totally accepting of self and has their ego based on their intellegence will

only be able to make fun of their intellect to the degree their ego is not based on it. This person

will also become offended if you criticize their intellegence. ---not a fun person to be around rite--

4a) A person who is completely loving can make fun of their social or economic status. Even if

they are poor they can make fun of their position in society and at the same time work to become

more successful if they so choose.

4b) A person who is less self loving in respect to accepting themselves at their present social

status will try to justify why they are poor, they also have the option of working to bettering their

finances but feel obligated to constantly explain to others why they are poor. They will feel hurt

if others point out to them their lack of wealth.



What benefits come with loving yourself? We'll its pretty much the benefits that I listed in a previous

post.

True self confidence!

Less and less effected by criticism..

Great personality! More charismatic

will receive a lot more attention from opposite sex

receive admiration from collegues

You will become more Humourous and Funny

You will attract a lot of friends- its just more fun to be around someone who is able to make fun

of himself or herself to a great degree...people just can't offend you!

Ok at this point it sounds like Im selling some kind of 19th century coke filled concoction syrum that is a

sure cure all for all symptoms. So if you want to buy into my ideas feel free to send me an envelope with

$20. haha  Wink  Smiley

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Re: The EGO
Reply #22 - Apr 24th, 2005 at 1:34am
 
I sure enjoy reading your posts bluejasn.  They are very insightful Grin Thanks!
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