Ok, let me dabble in this discussion for a moment, there are a lot of good points being brought up and a ton of stuff to think about, and too much to respond to all of it (though with my long post it looks like I tried
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Here is where I'm at in my current belief system (which is subject to change at anytime, restrictions may apply). I believe that we preplan the bulk of our life, and make pre-arrangements and contracts with numerous people and even 'backup' plans. I also believe that when we come down here we have complete free will. So I can only conclude that 'contracts' and 'agreements' are also made on the fly
while we are here.
So using this scenario, perhaps the murderer came down here to try to overcome these 'tendencies' and it was his original 'plan' to do so. However, while down here he chose to invoke his free will and decided, 'I'm going to do this thing'. I fully believe that everything happens for a reason, I do not believe in randomness. So when his soul said, "Uh, hey guys...I guess I'm not going to overcome this tendancy - we need someone to go into an agreement to be the victim" then the girls soul may come forward and say "ok, part of my being here was to help this family 'wake up' and my original plan isn't working, and my backup plan if the first one failed was to be murdered - so I would like to volunteer to be his victim for the greater good"....and well you get the idea.
So it may not be that it was 'pre-arranged' before they were born but done on the fly because that's how things worked out. I can't pretend to know what really happened at a soul level with these two, but it's just an idea.
Also, I wanted to say that how we think of things as a human (with our emotions and what not) and how we view things from a soul level are two completely different things. Imagine viewing everything that happens on earth from a view of 100% love, and with the understanding that in the end
everything is for the greater good and will be ok. It's just not the same feeling as we have here with our anger, guilt, shame, jealousy, hate, etc. It's like comparing apples and oranges.
I once had a lucid dream in which I died, and I actually went through the process of releasing from my body, I felt the 'pop' and the release from my current body....and the feeling that came over me was SPECTACULAR and while I was still aware of what concerned me as a human (how will my son be without his mom, will my mom be ok?)...in this form it just didn't matter because NONE OF THIS IS REAL. It is truly a stage and we are the actors...so will we make the person acting as a murderer burn in hell? What will that teach him?
At a soul level - he is not branded as a murderer - he is a soul going through an Earth experience. It's not like he goes back to the afterlife and starts trying to murder souls up there. He may go through his life review with his guide, and may be very upset with himself for not doing what he meant to...and starts the process of trying to figure out how to break this cycle when he is on earth and comes up with a new life and situation that will finally get it through his head to change while he is here.
One more thing I wanted to add (would someone shut me up already?). Why is there so much talk of anger and vengeance and punishment from God? Why is he so angry? Why are we suppose to fear him? Why would he want to torture his children? Why do we keep putting human emotions on something that is so big and great. My mom said that the day I was born she stopped believing that 100%. Because she said, "When I looked at you for the first time, I thought no matter what she ever does I will always love her with all my heart and could never think of punishing her like sending her to hell..and if I could feel that type of love as a mere human how could the great God in all his infinite wisdom do that with his own children."
So finally to my point (she has one?), if you can view all situations from 100% love and compassion (play pretend for a moment) and I mean with every fiber in your body and soul for every single soul in existence (yes - I even mean Hitler and Osama), then you will
begin to touch on the feeling and the way they view things from the otherside.
As a great man once said, We are more then our physical bodies.
Jenn