Posted by Patty on September 20, 2001 at 11:03:19:
In Reply to: Re: My attempt at contact posted by Mike V on September 20, 2001 at 10:29:53:
You are most welcome.
THank you for talking with his mother. Losing a child can be very traumatizing. If you are able, check on her periodically through the next year, and use Steve's name when you ask how she is doing. You may not want to, out of concern for 'reminding' her, but her son's death will be on her mind all the time anyway - and when you say his name it will be for her, as though he has briefly been present in the room; and it will be so good for her to know that you are a safe place for her to talk openly about her son with. Of course, if you are unable to, that is completely understandable and okay. After my mom's death I had a very hard time calling my dad, because of my own grief.
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I didn't have the sense that he called you 'Mike-ee " as a matter of course, but that he was looking for a name that you might recognize as one he uses. So I agree that may have been a hit. The Cher image was detached from anything so it is a mystery to me too. I hope that the clothes match, though if the hair didn't then the clothes might not. And the boss thing seemed symbolic more than literal, though again if it matches that would be great. I am relieved to learn that he has a sister, and that there might be a connection there with his concerns and that you hadn't been in touch with her.
I may try again - my sense is that my helper friend and this young man (presumably Steve) are completely willing to help out with this. My main problem is that my emotions are pretty high right now and I often can't get past the images that play in my mind, let alone get past any subconscious filters . It is frustating to phrase a question and wait for a reply only to get nothing but perceived silence. I guess I need to expand my awareness.
Love,
Patty