Someone needs to get this man to a hospital somehow if that is what he is doing. He needs intervention. Does he have any family members who would take responsibility for him? He does not sound as if he is well enough to make decisions right now.

Some people may not take this seriously, but I am glad that you and your friends are doing so. A person's actions are, of course, their own responsibility; however, in my opinion, we cannot care enough about each other.

You and your friends can also sit down with him and tell him that you care about him, and tell him that you would like to get him some help. See if he can be talked into going to a clinic, somewhere that he will not have access to alcohol. Take the alcohol away from him.

That's what friends do.

love, blink

You are good friends to do all this.

I added to my reply above and then noticed you had responded, Juditha. I am sorry you are going through this stressful time with your friend.

It seems to me that if your friend is sobering up a little, all of you need to come together and talk to him and let him know in no uncertain terms that you are not going to allow him to do this.

You can tell him that he can get counseling, and he can find his own reasons to live, but that you guys are just not going to allow him to leave this way. Just keep checking up on him, hourly, or someone stay with him for a while.

He is seeking attention. So, maybe just stay on track with "wellness" talk. Don't let him sit and rationalize his troubles to you guys. Keep steering him back to addressing the problem, which is his depression.

Also, I hope you guys get some counseling too. This has got to be rough to go through.

I'm not an expert, but that's what I'd think of doing and saying under those circumstances. Besides, I'm preaching to the choir. You've already done so much. What a champ! You're the best!

I always like what my mom said about it...one good reason to stick around this place is "someone might make me laugh"

love, blink

When he continues drinking, it could be considered actually as an attempt of suicide, then he could be brought under force into a clinic to get him sober. Don't know how the laws are in UK about that.

In my experience, he wouldn't be able to change anything until he's sober. Then he can decide if he'd keep on drinking or change his ways.

Spooky

P.S. Great job Juditha. I guess I'd be too weak for those dramas.

Sounds like you're doing a wonderful thing Judita.