Hi Candace I would like to help but I need some way of zeroing in on her energy signature. if u could offer a first name, age, birthplace, something to focus in on for me, I may be able to go see whats up.

don't give up. we are all here to make our connections. love, alysia

Alysia, as an afterthought, I've been reading a lot about helpers during retrievals, and I thought I'd let you know that Elan's four great grandparents may be available. They are: Catherine and Frank, and Lena and Isaac.

For what that's worth - and thanks once again.
Candace

forgot to invite others to have a look/see. maybe it's better the more contributors can try. love, alysia

Hi Candace, yes this the appropriate thread, the Retrievals thread. I'm still working on going out for more info but I picked up that there was an agreement on higher levels before you and she incarnated to this life that this was an agreement the entire family was involved in, her early departure  as there are always reasons why accidental deaths occur on higher levels and the grief must be felt before the truth is known.

I saw her as an advanced soul, her new life as Elan is a new consciousness being/probe and continues the growth process on the other side in a childcare facility controlled by the mother beings who are exceptional at their work. Elan, as an extention of her beautiful soul pattern has been put into the comparable 6 year old grouping as she is that quick in her mental. (linear time is for us here, but in the spirit world time passing is much different.) Elan appeared a little miffed as I approached to hug her; broke from my arms and showed me she would be determined to be her own person and she danced a little dance; she seems a very independent child, even strong willed and said although she would have wanted to stay with you if she'd had a choice, her soul wisdom and that agreement yanked her out at the proper time. Unity will occur with all family members later on.

any love you send out to her she progresses on your love as all those passed surely do; it is easier for us to send love thoughts then it is for them to send to us, not to worry for them, it is us who do the hard work when they leave us, but be assured we can contact them when the grief is worked through to the knowledge of their living presence within the other dimension nonphysical.
as usual, I find all children I meet on the other side fascinating, but I can see how much you love her and why.

my heart goes out to you. keep strong, and remember the PUL is whats a powerful energy and she will receive it because the bond is NEVER broken, what is love.

alysia

Hi Spooky, Catherine is Elan's grandmother's name. when I went out I wanted to call her Cathy too. I thought that it was maybe too informal, but since u picked up Cathy too..maybe not.

one more thing about the things to play with, I think I was getting the same hit, but I didn't mention this playground I saw, like a jungle jim surrounding because I didn't think it was important.
well for what its worth Candace, there u have it so far. love, alysia

Hi everyone - and thanks very much, Alysia and Spooky. With your efforts I've had some small measure of relief/comfort wash over me; I can't tell you how grateful I am to you. I imagine it's quite an energy expediture and possible a chunk of time involved to do this work, and I'm appreciative of your willingness to help a sad Mom.

The notion of my Gramma (Elan's great-gramma) going by Cathy is amusing - perhaps she's become less traditional in her spirit world. Butterflies resonates with me too - it was a favorite game to play, Elan flapping her arms and running around the kitchen island endlessly, and taking us to her butterflly "house" (the door mat).

Spooky, I'm so sorry about the rifle incident! That's a puzzler; I'll have to ask my Dad if his Dad, if that's who it was, had a rifle, though why he'd have it handy is odd to me. The toys/jungle gym fit well.

Tonight my husband awoke after dreaming that Elan either told him or indicated somehow that she was okay - I didn't get the whole story yet. I was interested that he'd had that dream relatively soon after your contacts with her spirit.

Did you happen to notice what Elan was wearing? I'm curious because she was just beginning to insist on choosing her own clothes in the morning - sometimes fun, sometimes not so much. Please, let me know if you discover anything further - thanks.

I am very interested to learn how to make these connections. I noticed Bruce has a new book/CD offering - can't wait for him to get settled in his new home.

Thanks again, to both of you and to everyone on the boards.

With gratitude,
Candace

Hi Alysia and Spooky. Yes, Elan was quite partial to dresses, was wearing one the day her spirit left and dressed her in her favorite "party dress" for her funeral. We displayed a few things, including favorite dresses, at church so people who didn't know her well could get a peek at who she was. If you want to see a picture of her, I have a page on Facebook - Candace Toews - in one she's wearing her princess dress. She loved being a princess.

She had amazing energy, you're right! We played all kinds of made-up games, and just watching her play by herself was enormously amusing. Thanks for the kind parenting words. I think she gets the energetic streak from my husband's mother's side, she's feisty.

Thank you both - I hope to learn how to do this myself (thanks for the encouragement!), but I can't express my gratitude enough. I hope to return the favor sometime.

All the best-
Candace