Vee
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Thank you for your notes, Mairlyn. It is so difficult to manage one's various human needs and yearnings when the family of origin is busy tearing itself to pieces and no one can do anything right and everyone is trying to correct everyone else, including even the most unhealthy members (who seem above all to believe their negative view of things is the correct one, strangely enough). One of my family members actually lives in the town I am moving to, and I have not even told them I am moving there...the burden of family problems is too great, and I don't handle it in a helpful way anyhow. And this is very typical, I gather, of dysfunctional families, this not talking, not sharing, thing. We all give up on each other after a few years. But being able to send healing to them in the non physical has been a tremendous boon to me, as i don't have to get involved in arguing and self-protection etc, just gather myself together, call on the healers, and give an hour or two over to these very beloved people who can't trust or get along with me or each other. When they pass over, I get to help them find The Park and get them started in their new life, and wow, what a gift it is to have this wonderfully secret ability to help them when they most need it, even though I can't find my way to a relationship with them in this life. A buddhist writer, very popular these days, I forget his name, a monk, some of you will have read him, advised in one book I bought to love them to pieces and phone them and say, my darling, darling sister, I love you so much, I cannot bear to have these troubles between us, and so on, and I actually tried that (which was NOT easy to do!!) and it did not work at all...I dunno the answer but I sure am glad I can go looking for them when they leave the physical and all their troubles and say, here I am, I love you so much, let me take you to Dad or Mom or whoever and everything will be fine. As my compassion grows (hopefully it will) I possibly can do better with at least some of my siblings (those who are left, not many at this point). Nice to think we are not too far from each other. No doubt it will be possible for us to meet in the not too distant future! Romain is quite a ways up the coast from me, but maybe we should have, you know, hey, a Moen Board NW Coast conference or something. Vee
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