Kate welcome to the board.

You don't have to worry about "invading" or being a "pest", you have a right to post here just as much as any of us, we're all here to learn, share, and grow, so Im glad you are interested in doing this with us.  Of course, I feel it is best to do a little research first on topics you are interested in or have questions about, and if you cannot seem to find the answer or feel like talking about any of them then post away!  But thats totally up to you, any questions you have will be gladly answered.

Thank you Laffingrain and OutofBodyDude for your replies.

I'll make these couple of dreams short and sweet with only the most important details noted.

I should start out with this first:  My Father just passed away on November 28th.  He was exposed to Agent Orange in the war and so he had brain and lung cancer.  He was diagnosed in November '05 and died almost exactly one year later -this year.  I loved him so.  I was Daddys Girl all the way.  We were like twins while my brother took after my Mom.  I saw him 3 times while he was a home in bed, dying, before he did pass on.  He heard everything I said to him even though he couldn't talk anymore.  

Dream 1- My friend dreamed about him (she's never met him) the night before he passed.  She dreamed she was holding her infant daughter (who died 4 hours after birth from T13), and she was trying to wrap the baby up really well with her little blanket.  She said she couldn't wrap her up well for some reason, was struggling, and she knew the baby was getting cold.  Then she saw a tall slender man walk up to her and say "I know you.  Here, let me help."  He took the baby from her, quickly wraped her up, and walked up a spiral staircase with the baby and was gone.  She said my Father was the man who helped her.  This friend is an internet friend so we have never met.  That was also the very first dream she has had about her infant daughter since the birth and death (August).  

Dream 2- This past Monday night.  I dreamed my Dad was alive and he married a very young Mexican lady who didn't speak much English.  He didn't tell anyone he was dating anyone let alone getting married!  He was wearing one of his suits and I remember feeling like - How in the world could you do this, Dad?!  He offered no explanations and didn't introduce her to me.  I should say that after he and my Mom divorced after 20 years together, he remarried after just a few months of dating a not so stable/nice/classy woman.  They up and went to the courthouse one day and got married.  My Grandparents called to tell me what he'd done.

Dream 3- Last night.  I dreamed I was trying to remember his pager # so I could get in touch with him (He had the same # for years and I'll probably be able to recite it until I die).  Anyway, I did remember it and I was actually saying it out loud but I didn't wake myself up - weird.  Then I decided to go to his office and when I got there I saw his sunglasses laying on the counter.  He was a loan originator in life but in the dream he worked at a retail store of some kind and so there were things hanging on the walls like cell phones, pagers, sunglesses - things like that.  As soon as I saw his sunglasses sitting there it hit me instantly that he wasn't with us anymore, he was gone.  Then I started crying and I did wake myself up this time.  

What do you guys think?

Also, I've seen some flashing lights.  I've never seen flashing lights before in my life but since my Dad died I've seen them 3 times.  The first two times I saw them out my bay windows in the kitchen.  It was the middle of the night and I was up making a bottle for my son.  I didn't see the source, only flashes right outside the window.  And just a few nights ago I was in bed (again in the wee hours of the morning) giving my son his bottle and I saw one single flash alongside the bed.  

I guess the other thing I wanted to say was that sometimes I feel like he's literally following my every step.  I'll get goosebumps out of the blue and I'll get the feeling I'm not alone.  It does scare me a little bit.  Should I talk out loud or in my thoughts to him as if he really were still here?  

To close, I have also had several dreams about Jesus, actually being in His presence.  We talked to each other with our minds and never our mouths.  Once, during church (I canter for Saturday Mass) His face flashed in front of me as I was singing a hymn at Communion.  It was exactly like when a camera flash goes off and leaves you seeing spots...  it was exactly like that.  The image of His face is still clear in my memory.

Goodness to grief...  I'm so sorry that was long and drawn out.  I'm so embarrassed!

Any thoughts or imput would be wonderful.  

Thanks again,

Katie

thank you for all those sharings..its a lot to think about but really got into it.
your energy signature is very lovely (my feelings of empathic) I feel like we are friends. your bond with dad is very strong. I note from my experience my nanny began to surround my mother with signs and thoughts of encouragement, she became guidance to mother. It appears this happens within family alot. Your dad is trying to awaken you to spiritual realms of the afterlife. It is because he cares, but I know it can be a little scarey at first.
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Dream 1- My friend dreamed about him (she's never met him) the night before he passed.  She dreamed she was holding her infant daughter (who died 4 hours after birth from T13), and she was trying to wrap the baby up really well with her little blanket.  She said she couldn't wrap her up well for some reason, was struggling, and she knew the baby was getting cold.  Then she saw a tall slender man walk up to her and say "I know you.  Here, let me help."  He took the baby from her, quickly wraped her up, and walked up a spiral staircase with the baby and was gone.  She said my Father was the man who helped her.  This friend is an internet friend so we have never met.  That was also the very first dream she has had about her infant daughter since the birth and death (August). 
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I have obes with internet friends all the time. I always gain from that something.
so even though we have not been in the physical presence of these internet buddies, it shows the ability of minds and souls to connect beyond physicality.
Your friend has established an emotional bond with you which allows your father to pick up on this connection directly through your subconscious mind and follow the trail so to speak to check up on her, what she may need some help on a problem. It appears your dad is becoming helper out there, like my grandmother did. It looks like he performed a classic retrieval by wrapping the baby for warmth (an extension of love) and taking the baby with him. spiral is symbolic of a dna strand. its very spiritual also. your friend was struggling with the wrapping because she struggles with the painful thoughts that she lost this child when she was already beginning to love it. she just couldn't turn the baby over without help so he took it upon himself to help. He gave her mind the symbols to work with so she could rest at ease within C1 regarding the baby. dreams are a convenient avenue for spirit (of which includes the individuality of your dad) to work with us to release painful circumstances.
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Dream 2 I dreamed my Dad was alive and he married a very young Mexican lady who didn't speak much English.  He didn't tell anyone he was dating anyone let alone getting married!  He was wearing one of his suits and I remember feeling like - How in the world could you do this, Dad?!  He offered no explanations and didn't introduce her to me.  I should say that after he and my Mom divorced after 20 years together, he remarried after just a few months of dating a not so stable/nice/classy woman.  They up and went to the courthouse one day and got married.  My Grandparents called to tell me what he'd done.
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When two people get married or join up, its not always because they are in love but rather that they would like to be in love or gain from each other.
sometimes there are issues of helpfulness to one another, a balancing act to do. since the symbol is that she is not knowing english, your dad is elected to either 1)learn her language or 2)teach her his language. or 3) do both A & B.
you are showing your surprise that dad does as he pleases without telling anyone. hes showing you a side of himself you never seen before but now he is on the other side he is able to do as he pleases as he sees life is continuing. he seems to be quite busy and certainly not suffering from the symbols u give. It also could very well be he is helping to bring these ideas into your sleep state for reflection of his greater being and that he lives.  Your dad marrying a not so stable as himself person shows he does like to offer that stability to another that he has attained. love is a funny thing; the person we date or marry will never be exactly like our own self, but sometimes the opposite traits, so it works out well in the long run to learn from each other.
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Dream 3- Last night.  I dreamed I was trying to remember his pager # so I could get in touch with him (He had the same # for years and I'll probably be able to recite it until I die).  Anyway, I did remember it and I was actually saying it out loud but I didn't wake myself up - weird.  Then I decided to go to his office and when I got there I saw his sunglasses laying on the counter.  He was a loan originator in life but in the dream he worked at a retail store.
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when we see communication devices in our dreams we are trying to express the desire to make contact with someone. Speaking outloud or even bursting into tears like I did once after a dream, is important information to guage the level of your desire to manifest the communication. (in other words you are intensely in process of manifesting your intentions.)  His office is where his soul is working. I see correlations between loan originator service and retail store. he retails loans.
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there were things hanging on the walls like cell phones, pagers, sunglesses - things like that.  As soon as I saw his sunglasses sitting there it hit me instantly that he wasn't with us anymore, he was gone.  Then I started crying and I did wake myself up this time.
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He no longer needs his sunglasses because where he is at he need not shield and protect his eyes from the sun's rays. it is a symbol of how different it is in the afterlife, that there is a lot of "objects" we no longer need utilize.
you are reacting still to his departure; you are still in process of grieving. they say it takes a year. the implements of communication devices are seen hanging about showing your dad is working in the communication fields now. in a sense these devices connect us one to another bringing messages. he becomes a messenger. messenger is also defined as a name for a helper, or in olden days, the angelic realm participants were called angels. in a sense we are shown we can become like angels unto one another.
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Also, I've seen some flashing lights.  I've never seen flashing lights before in my life but since my Dad died I've seen them 3 times.  Th first two times I saw them out my bay windows in the kitchen.  It was the middle of the night and I was up making a bottle for my son.  I didn't see the source, only flashes right outside the window.  And just a few nights ago I was in bed (again in the wee hours of the morning) giving my son his bottle and I saw one single flash alongside the bed.
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Spirit will use whatever means it can to show itself. there is a friend on this board who sees flashing lights also. peripheral vision can pick up information, in the same way a dog can hear sounds that we humans have not the range for. the lights is all you can handle right now in C1 but later u may perceive him in a more detailed way.
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Should I talk out loud or in my thoughts to him as if he really were still here?
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Certainly! remember you said he could hear you when he was in a coma? well now he's permanently in that coma place, but not negatively meant. he can hear you now as then because your thoughts can be seen, as well your emotions. although it's fear of the unknown prevents us from taking that first step towards communication with our loved ones, only we can take the first step towards them by deciding not to be afraid.
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To close, I have also had several dreams about Jesus, actually being in His presence.  We talked to each other with our minds and never our mouths.  Once, during church (I canter for Saturday Mass) His face flashed in front of me as I was singing a hymn at Communion.  It was exactly like when a camera flash goes off and leaves you seeing spots...  it was exactly like that.  The image of His face is still clear in my memory.
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always in religion the Christians said we needed a personal relationship with Christ. Christ consciousness is symbolic of choosing to love over choosing to hate. this is what J taught. it looks like you already have that personal relationship established with the face of J showing up to remind you in C1 who you are belonging to and who belongs to you that you would follow. J is also my sign I follow so that maybe thats why I felt a kinship with you right away.    I think you just received a blessing to have that face flash before you. I have never seen that myself but occassionally a friend here will mention they have seen this and spoke with the master, or another master. J is not the only master. you should just feel the inspiration of it and give thanks you are on the right track. as far as my personal relationship with J, I have not spoken or shared thoughts that way, but see a man walking a dirt road in my mind who sees all and forgives all, paving the way for us to do the same.
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Goodness to grief...  I'm so sorry that was long and drawn out.  I'm so embarrassed!
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well thank you! don't be embarrassed. to think you would trust your deepest thoughts to a board...good heavens, the courage it must have took...
its not easy communicating here these things..so easy to be misunderstood and slandered...look at yourself...you are shining like a star in my eyes.
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I hope I said something good. love, alysia

Alysia posted while I was writing my post.  I liked her explanation of the sunglasses better than mine - your father may be in a place of light but he doesn't need them.  Hi Alysia - like your post.

I like your post too Rob.

Hi Kate, i pick up an amazing vibe off your dad's face and i liked him immediately. he exudes strength. a strong spiritual strength and a protective element around him of you.
its no wonder he's around you now. you are very blessed to have him as father. not all of us are so blessed. a guardian spirit he is for sure.

thanks so much for the lovely pic to share, we don't get that very often here, what you have done. I appreciate it very much. I'm so pleased you stopped in and you are welcome anytime like the others said. alysia

hi Kate, I was unable to get the links..probably my fault..but the baby is cute as a bugs ear I'm sure!   I'm inspired that you and Kimber are now aware what a retrieval is.

in Bruce's books (our founder here) and I'll have book out soon we tell about retrievals because this has been going on since time began, but we have this new word retrievals, for it.  I forget it's really clear to me after 6 years of studying retrievals what they are, but I forget newbies come in and they just find out about them.

on the other side where your dad is, he's really getting into the swing of it, isn't he?
I just felt a burst of happiness to think of how fast he catches on!

when I cross over I want to continue to do them too whenever I'm called on or have a connection to do one. here's what it means to me in a picture, and a picture is a thousand words right?