mzb10zar wrote on Sep 20th, 2006 at 9:00am:Hello everyone! Alysia, I love your sincerity.
I wish that one day I feel that kind of energy PUL for everyone. I think I felt it before. Usually, when you get in love with somebody (in the beginning) is like you love everybody and everything is beautiful.
One question, how can you feel love for somebody that is mean, cruel, and takes pride for being so mean with people?
I am a very sensitive person, and when someone next to me is mean intentionally I ignore him/her, like he/she does not exist, but just for a little while because I do not get mad for long, I can't. Thanks God!
About two month ago, at my work place, my boss(my husband's uncle) was so mean to me that it made me cry(like a baby) he didn't expect that reaction from me( also I was having some emotional problems). Anyways, he felt sorry for me I guess, and he told me if I am no family of his maybe I wouldn’t be working for his company (that hurt) One of the thing he told me is that he needed to be mean with everyone at the job, no exception because is the only way people can do the job professionally. In the moment of the incident I felt like he was the meanest of the persons. Well, the incident is in the past and I know now what to do and what not to do to affect him. But again, how can you send or feel love for someone that is mean? What about someone that has little respect for what you think and about you opinions? Thanks to all!!!! Love and gratitude!
P/S Alysia, I just bought Bruce's first book. I just started to read it. I love it!
Cool! Bruce's books were books I wanted to finish, I mean some books I could only get halfway through them before I'd shelve them promising to try again. I think people who are mean this way are trying to motivate their workers the only way they know how. its sad I know when others don't concentrate on what you are doing right versus what you are doing wrong. u can get more bees with honey than sour milk my opinion. u gots to learn to be stronger mzb. your boss is unconsciously making you stronger. I mean don't take it personally to be yelled at. this other is yelling for you to love him, or to show him what love is. unconsciously. maybe you will someday. be careful that if he walks on you don't let him stand there and wipe his feet or you would feel crushed all the time and you can't do good work if you're crushed all the time the same. presuming he wants efficiency according to his conception what that is. we all go thru this. you'll be fine I just know it. love, alysia