hi Shirley, I'm late but wanted to put in two cents...I agree with everyone's advice.
try remembering a time when she and you were together and feeling good there with the friendly vibes..this will help to get back to her, to set up the intention. this I feel is like the modulation factor greenwater mentioned. that was a good way to put it.
then I had one more suggestion more on practical side? as you do the imagination thing, see yourself asking her out for some tea, or coffee, or to enjoy a sunset, or whatever you think you two might have done together before that you enjoyed, like even sitting in your kitchen together. something that she would relate to as enjoyable support of herself. but at least she picked you up, so I can see success coming. love, alysia
can't wait to see what Spooky picked up.