betson wrote on Jul 5^th, 2006 at 10:26am:




Dear Betson,

As this is not the 1st private I've received from you regarding your dissatisfaction over my posts, and it does not appear it would be the last, it's better to let this out into the open.

Whilst this was indeed a private message you sent, having given due consideration to the nature of this matter, it's probably the appropriate thing to do, to post this out (in an off-topic forum, of course). Afterall, clearly if you didn't wish to have anything further made out of this, you wouldn't have sent the PMs in the first place.

Now, the purpose of this post, is (most certainly) NOT to 'declare war'. If you know anything of me by now, that's not my interest. The purpose of this post, is to let your frustrations be known to the rest on the forum. In other words, for information's sake only.

I am not asking for anyone (eg. others on the forum, a moderator, or Bruce himself) to arbitrate, to pass 'judgement' (on whos 'right' or 'wrong'; silly ideas), or even to give their comments or opinions on this matter.

Because the way I see it, your frustration is with my posts, while as far as I'm concerned, I have no issues with you, or even your frustration. However, it is unfortunate that you feel this way, and it is not what I would have wanted.

But having said all this, the fact remains that my intentions and posts, appear to have been misconstrued or misintepreted by you. And as I see it, or as they say, IMHO (In My Humble Opinion), my posts are within bounds of what is appropriate and acceptable.

Therefore, and bearing in mind I have no wish to have quarrel with you, I shall do the following :

Unless the Moderator (whom incidentally is the forum owner) Bruce, in no uncertain terms ban me from the Afterlife Knowledge Forum, I shall naturally continue what I feel has been appropriate for me to do all along, which is to post materials that are IMO informative, useful or helpful.

I'm aware that you, Betson, are the moderator of "The Book Club Pages" of this forum, but as you can see, I'm not posting in those subsections. I do suggest (not just to Betson, but to all) that the next time you read a post (whether from myself or anyone else) that you disagree with (either in content or in perceived intention), you remind yourself that you are free to

a) not read it.
b) post your own opinions on the *subject matter* discussed.

I would however, not recommend for unfortunate feelings of frustration or upset to be had, because these do not serve yourself, nor anyone else, very much.

In conclusion, dear Betson, I feel it unfortunate that you feel this way, but (honestly) cannot apologize for how you choose to perceive, interpret or feel about my posts or this matter.

Please understand if I may not necessarily reply or engage you on this (or any other) thread, because that so often leads to "flame wars" and (worsened) ill-feelings, which is the last thing I want.

I wish you well, and hope you have a great week.
Kyo

I agree with everything Sandra wrote.  The purpose of the boards is to express your opinion, and learn from each other.  If a person finds some threads he/she doesn't like, either chime in with an opinion, or choose a different thread and ignore those that don't resonate with you.

No one should feel intimidated however about questioning an opinion or insight.  We are, on the whole a good, open minded bunch on this forum.

Matthew

Thank you, Kyo and others there.
They say the best lessons are the most difficult ones.
Bets