I am wanting to know if a loved one has passed that you were close with but that person didnt know where you lived, can that person still find you in the afterlife? Im asking because I have recently had my boyfriend pass and he didn't ever come to my house, we (myself and my kids) always went to his so he was never in my house, if possible, can he still come thru to me not knowing where I am? Is he able to feel where I'm at and find me..even in my dreams?

Dear Shelley,

Love connects us no matter where we are.  All we have to do is think of that person with love in our hearts and they know it.  I hope that eases you mind a bit.  I lost my husband of 47 years --- seven years ago--- and still everyday we connect with an 'I love you'.  It may be for only a moment, but it happens. 

Sometimes small signs like butterflies or birds pay a visit.  It could be almost anything, but it will be for you. 

Love does not die because a body does.  Love continues.

I hope this helps,
Baroness T'ressa

  Shelley, what Baroness said is very wise and true.  And try not to hold too hard onto him as for those heavy, holding feelings we feel for the recently transitioned can weigh them down some so that they don't fully move into the consciousness they naturally belong at. 

   It's ok to feel those feelings, and you need to fully feel them to really process and let go of them, but try to focus on the larger picture that things usually happen for good reasons (often, but not always, preplanned to some extent) and that you will be more fully together when the time is right and right now you are meant to live your Earthly life as he is meant to live his nonphysical life.  You will always be deeply connected regardless. 

    My experience with grief is (i had someone i was very close to die), that the more you can let go, the more our beloved ones can get through to and communicate with us more clearly and powerfully--rather we become more open to, conscious of, and receptive to that communication, because those heavy feelings tend to shut down and limit those more subtle senses.

  Plus there is the fact that if they from their now more detached emotional state, feel that contact would only prolong grief and being too attached to them in a limiting way (interfering with your earthly life and plan), they may choose to hold off on contact until there is change within their still inphysical loved one. 

Hi Shelley, and welcome.  I think this is a great question. 

I'm so sorry you lost your boyfriend.  But don't waste time wondering if he can find you, he can.  And you can reach out to him as well.  The physical plane's laws and rules don't apply.  All you need to reach out to him and connect is a thought and feeling and intention.  Sometimes you may feel just one of those, and sometimes you may feel a combination of them.  What I mean is, you may think "I'd like to reach out and connect with him."  That's an intention.  Sometimes our intentions work as a process before things come into being.  Or you may have a strong emotion or have a sudden thought about him pop into your mind.  This is how "connecting" works.  It can be a slower process or something instantaneous. 

A method I use to make a connection and contact is by imagining the person is right here with me.  I'll bring up a memory or visual image or feeling and focus on it until I am feeling the feeling of their presence.  I don't worry or question whether it's true or real contact, I just enjoy the feeling as if it IS real, then I say (or think) whatever I want to say to them.  It usually brings up strong emotions but especially the feeling of love.  It's such a magical way of raising your consciousness--through emotion.  Trust me, this will definitely bridge contact with your loved one. 

Plus, the good thing about this method is that in raising your consciousness you're pulling yourself away from the focus of lower-consciousness emotions and thoughts, like fear, anger, regret, disappointment, etc. 

Sometimes the "results" you get are not what you'd expect.  Sometimes it's just an overwhelming feeling that will come over you, like contentment, love, validation, etc.  The more you focus on these positive higher-consciousness feelings, the more you'll notice and feel actual signs of contact and connection.  I really do believe this.  I know how hard it is!  And it does take some patience, practice, and perseverance. 

Vicky