Hi all,

I have mentioned this before but there's now a new and interesting development.

Back in 2006 I saw a shadowy figure in my mums house, it was peeking around a doorway at me, it freaked me out to be honest and I forgot about it until recent events.

Today I was talking to my youngest nephew, I heard that he'd seen a "ghost" at my sisters old house. I asked him about it and he said that he'd seen one at my mums, I didn't know about this so I asked him what happened and he said that he saw a shadowy figure peeking around a doorway at him, the same doorway where I saw it.

We have never spoke about this with each other before and I let him tell me what he saw before I told him about what I had seen that day.

I had a feeling at the time that it was my father who died in 2001 but as he was the only person who I'd lost at that time I might have been putting 2 and 2 together. Now I'm more certain it was him as he was very close to my nephew who saw this entity.

There was no bad feeling when I saw it so I don't think it was negative.

Why would a spirit hide like this? It's pretty weird if you ask me.

Andy

Hi Andy,

It's interesting but I don't have any ideas.  Who does your nephew think it felt like to him?  Do either of you remember any impressions you felt coming from the figure about what he was feeling or thinking?

One theory I have is that not all spirits, even nice/good ones want to be seen, they just want to observe us.  Maybe they have to learn how to appear to us and on what level and in what way??

One of my experiences seeing a spirit was she appeared in the form of a cloud, and she was actually startled to realize that I could see her.  It was as if she thought she could appear and that I wouldn't even notice. 

If it's your dad, or whoever it was, maybe he was trying to not be seen.  Maybe not to scare anybody??

Without more experience, we can only guess.  At least you have someone to corroborate what you saw.  Does it make you feel better in a way, like giving you more belief or proof?

Vicky 

Hi Vicky,

Well, the main reason I think it was my father is an assumption, I think. It's hard as it was so long ago now, also I did actually block this out for some time as I didn't want to have anything to do with it, if that makes any sense?

I have always been open to accept this stuff as possible but when I saw this it nearly gave me a heart attack, the feeling of being watched was very strong hence me turning around to see what it was. After that I didn't feel threatened or scared, I was quite calm, I did question what I had saw, was it my imagination? etc but I knew it was real and that was the problem for me at the time. It should have been a life changing event for me but I didn't let that happen, I was 23/24 and thought I knew it all but this made me think that I knew nothing.

As for my nephew, I didn't ask him who he thought it was lol.

I even saw a full apparition a year or so later which is also verified by several more people and I still didn't want to know, we think this was the former occupant of the house I was living in so no one I knew personally.

As you can probably tell, I'm stubborn  ;D.

Has it helped my beliefs? It has certainly helped me realise that I definitely wasn't seeing things that day but I knew this anyway. As for life after death, well after recent events I really don't need any more confirmation of that than I have already, it's a fact of life for me now, there's no going back.

I do have doubts which are me doubting whether or not certain things were happening or not but that's just me being stupid  ;).

Vicky, you do make a lot of sense with your replies and thanks for everything you have done to help me, especially when I first came here  :).

Andy B wrote on Jul 5^th, 2011 at 3:07pm:

Vicky, you do make a lot of sense with your replies and thanks for everything you have done to help me, especially when I first came here  :).

Aw, thanks for saying so.  I appreciate that. 

In my replies, as with in my view of my own experiences, I try to be balanced in how I approach and look at things.  There does need to be a certain level of rationale when we judge our experiences, but on the other hand if you don't open the door a little then you will never see what's on the other side. 

All I know is, nothing beats having your own direct experience, no matter what anyone else thinks.  You have to trust your own sense of reality.  But of course, as with all things in life, it's wonderful to have other people know and believe what you're talking about, and to back you up. 

At the end of the day, I really can't believe in other people's experiences the same way that I can believe in my own.  But what I definitely can do for other people is encourage them the way I know helps.  The rest is up to the individual in what they decide and choose to do and believe.  Some doubt is healthy, but too much just shuts down your vision. 

I think I've seen you come a long way since you first came here.  How's your girl friend getting along?  And she's expecting, right?  So that's got to be a comfort to her as well.  Whatever the reason is for your situation, I believe there's always a reason for everything we experience, even if we don't get to know what it is.  But you're doing such a great job, being strong, and learning and gaining so much from what life's thrown at you.  I meant it when I told you before that I believe you're going to have many more experiences with nonphysical perception.  So, I'm just happy you're here to share it with others.

Vicky

Hi Vicky,

I know what you mean about judging other peoples experiences. You can't feel the same way as the person who has had them, it's impossible. The same can be said about anything, like if I told you I was in a car crash, I could explain what it was like but it doesn't come close to experiencing it for yourself does it?

I can assure you that I am a extremely rational person, if you met me in person you would see this. It also helps that I don't look for things, I never have, they all happened out of the blue.

I started a new job a month ago, only a couple of people there know what had happened a few months ago. If I told anyone else they would be shocked by the event but they would be even more shocked at how I am, they don't have a clue ;) as I'm fine. This is the most amazing part of it to me.

I don't have an issue with telling them, but I know it would change the way they treat me and I don't want that. I'm talking about my sons passing and not the other stuff of course.

As for my girlfriend, she is now 30 weeks pregnant and everythings been perfect so far, Lyndons pregnancy was troublesome to say the least so I find this a bit odd tbh, I'm not complaining though.

She has also had some experiences herself now, a few dreams which has made her more at peace and also we both experienced somebody touching us even an arm around the waist. I didn't tell her it was happening to me, she asked me if it had been happening to me first, it doesn't get more real than that, does it?

Andy