Many times I've had dreams of my mum's old house (she passed 5 years ago), often with her in it behaving as she always had in her later years. We have always had trouble communicating with each other in these dreams - she's always seemed stuck in her own routine, just behaving as she had in her home. I am always concerned with dealing with the packing up of her possessions or the salvaging of her possessions - packing up her things when she moved to sheltered accommodation in life and sorting her things after she died were both things I felt were dealt with badly. I often dream I am protecting her house from entry by unwanted people or salvaging her possessions before the landlord reclaims the house. I wonder if this is either my preoccupations preventing her from contacting me or her being stuck in the routine she had in her later years making her 'stuck'?

On a different track, reading ahead in the Afterlife Knowledge Guide (I know, I shouldn't!) I am really struck by Bruce's description of 3-D Blackness. When I was a child I was able to 'swap' dreams when I didn't like them - I used to go to an entirely black 'space'. I could see nothing but perceived this to have a physical space like a room - there were unseen 'doors' in the room and I just used to go there and choose another door when I wanted to change my dream.

Sadly (for me) not enough to convince me just yet, but nonetheless some interesting stuff...

The 3-D blackness I get most of the time is a bedroom with a computer in it that looks to be from the late 80's. Of course there is no color because its blackness but I can make out some details about the room. I've never had a blank blackness before unless I just had my eyes closed waiting for the 3-D.

I have heard of people who don't believe in an afterlife being at first confronted with their own consciousness in a deep blackness until they finally ask for light or help or something.

It's funny, the black 3D 'room' is one of the most vivid memories from my childhood. I was a prolific dreamer as a child and was always able to change the dream by thinking 'I don't like this', going to my 'room' and choosing another door. Nowadays I'm often aware I'm dreaming but have no power (which I find very annoying in the dream) to change anything.