Hello My name is Nancy and on May 27th 2011 I lost my Mother,it was very sudden and unexpected.....she died alone,she was in the hospital and had ,had some help to the toilet ,when she got up to go back to the bed she collapsed and died..all alone.I live in Oklahoma City and had to fly to California for the service,I am one of 3 daughters and we loved our Mom so very much.I am haveing a hard time wondering if she's ok, I got to see her and watched her body go into the fire,she was creamated. I have been extremely upset and angry and ask "Why" I had so much to learn from her still,she was only 67 and the most beautiful woman in the universe,at least to me.I believe in the afterlife,but I need to know for sure she made it across ok.I need her to know that I'm sorry for all the dumb things I did in my teen years, I need her to know that I love her,I need to know she is ok.Even tho I saw her body and touched her and watched her go into the fire ,my mind still wants to denie it and I seen it with my own eyes.I've been lying around in bed for days now and I need to know she is ok.How can I get that proof? I talk to her everyday and want her back so bad,how do I live in a world without her?? Thank you for letting me share and I hope i get some replies back.thank you.
                            Nan :'(

Dear Nancy,

The proof you seek of your Mother's wellbeing is in your heart; this proof is in the love you have for her and share with her. And the surest cure for your grief is heartfelt thankfulness for your dear Mother.

Thankfulness is love. It is the love of receiving, and of retrospect. It is the love that washes grief away. No loss, no pain of grief is felt within a thankful heart. When grief creeps in, be thankful for your Mother, for all she taught you and for all the love you share - and say a prayer of thankfulness to her. Love flows from heart to heart, and thankfulness recieves her love and sends your love to her. No barrier can stop the flow of love from heart to heart, not even death. Have no regrets, your Mother stands upon a higher vantage point; she understands those little errors you have made in Earthly life. Besides, you have learnt and grown from your errors, as we do. In your love and thankfulness to her, in your heart as if your heart does have a voice, just talk to her as if your heart and hers are joined together by a line. Breathe as if you breathe with her, from heart to heart, in thankfulness.

Do not yearn for your mother, but say thankyou to her in your heart. Thankfulness retains but is not needy; it recieves but does not take; it connects but does not hold, it loves yet frees. Only good will come of this. Your heart will warm, your grief will ease and peace will come, a quiet knowing that all is well will come to you.

 
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Dear Crossbow,
       Thank you so much for your reply,it means alot to me it really does.I guess its still so freash in my heart and mind ,I know the pain will subside but it will never be fully gone.I'm grasping at straws here for my own proof that she is ok.I know time will go on as it has for millions of years....... I still hurt knowing I'll never see her or speak to her and hear her sweet voice again.I am just torn up.........Nan :-/

hi nan your mom is not stuck,she is fine and she is always close to you,the feelings you have about your mom,thinking about seeing her go into the fire was a part of your greiving,all the worrying of your mom,i remember when my dad died,he died suddenly,i had this dream that my dad was laying in the morge in a black bag and as i was walking up to him,the zip would come down and he would sit up,with a very angry face,saying to me,"Why have you left me here"and then i would wake up in tears,but as time went on ,i knew he was ok,in a beautiful world,and well again and at peace and that is were your mom is ,in that beautiful spirit land ,well and at peace.

As i write this nan,i feel im with her,she keeps giving me the name of jane,also not sure,terry or teresa.
she's saying,she knows of your fears and concerns about her,but she wants you to know that she is with loved ones and watchs over you and all of you,but often comes around around you with energy ,healing and love.

im getting the name stuart now,i get the feeling he has passed,i see him standing very close to her,i get this person as a father figure,im getting gwen or gwenda sounds like.

she now shows me a girl child standing with a little red bike,this child looks around 5to 6 yrs old,i also see a little yorkshire terrier,getting the name kim.

she now shows me wat looks like the railway clock that stands on the train stations,she is showing me a journey by train,being given the name Hampshire,also new orleans,texas and alabama,also i think shes say braig'e,brussels and kent.

she now showing me lots of coloured beads ,lots of blue and red,tinsel stars on a pine christmas tree.

she says shes with Reg,who comes across to me as an uncle figure,also she gives me the name of darren or darwin

she now shows me a toyota but giving me the name cadillac,this car is shown as white

she now holds out these beautiful violets for you also a date she gives me november 11th,may 12th,1st febuary,22nd of may,11th june,she gives me theses dates for anniversary,birthday,passing.

Purple iris's she gives you also and is now beginning to leave me but with much much love for you and your sister and family.

i hope i have got this right for you nan,i was always taught in circle that i must give wat spirit give me word for word as it comes,love, light and god bless you and your family    love juditha

Hi Nan,

Welcome to the board.  Sorry to hear you lost your mom.  She'll most likely come to you in dreams/OBEs and in the times you suddenly feel, remember, or smell her scent, and even the times when you sit quiet and just feel, remember, and cry about her are the times when you're most close to being connected, receiving her thoughts and sending your own.  The only thing that's really changed is the way in which you can communicate with her now.  Instead of physically, it will be nonphysically.  Instead of the old logical ways you were used to, it will be through feeling and intuition. 

There's a lot of great information here, very useful to bring your own experience of belief in your own way so that you'll be able to transform your worries, fear, and doubt into real changes of belief inside you. 

Vicky
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hi nancy so sorry about your dear mum but i can assure u she is fine now ,shes in a beautful place with the rest of her family who passed before her ,she can still see and hear u their is only an invisible thin viel between the spirit world and the earth plain she has just told me she wants u to be happy and try and move on because she will always be near u she said u can still talk to her anytime you want i,i know how you feel nancy i lost my beautiful dad 10 yrs ago and i know how painful it can be but they are always with us nancy including your lovely mum she may visit you in your dreams so be prepared for that shes telling me she loves u very much and shes sorry she had to leave u but it was her time to go shes saying bless u darlin i hope this helps a bit nancy love dianna123

hi nan it is i again your mum keeps giving the name margaret to and uncle bob love dianna123

Hey there,

I think most members of this forum have lost a loved one. You're not alone; we know how it feels.

Your heart is crammed with feelings of all sorts. But it seems to me like you can handle it, even if it may not seem to you that way right now; you're not losing yourself in grief, anger or guilt.
I'm sorry for not being of much help; or any at all.
I usually have to wait for my loved ones to contact me. Every once in a while when it seems too long, I listen to the music they used to like, look at old pictures so I feel the way I used to when they were around; just to remind them I'm still here, thinking of them.

well, take care of yourself,
greetings to your mom when you get through to her,
Vagabound