My wife died suddenly two weeks ago ...10 days after the birth of our healthy baby boy(first and only child).She died in the hospital where she had been for 3 days to recover from a fever.She was 35 years old.

I'm raising the baby alone in our house for the next few months.It has been difficult.

I really want to believe that we will one day be together again but in the meantime I'm hoping for signs of communication.I'm hoping to see or feel something soon.I can't stand the thought of being without her for the next 40 years or so.

What are my chances of (a)being reunited many years from now? and (b) being able to experience some communication with her soon?

Roho,

I am sorry for your loss and, although I have no way to understand your sorrow completely, I will hold you close in my thoughts during this difficult time...both you and your new child.

I feel sure that you will see your wife again, and that you will receive some kind of communication with her. I cannot say how and when it will happen, but my own experiences over time have led me to believe that this is so for me, and that it will be for you as well.

much love, blink  

 I'm really sorry to hear about this Roho.  I can't answer your question, but i suggest meditation and prayer, and maybe even try some Hemi-Sync at first.

dear Roho, your chances are good. be expectant to hear from her. this expectancy is like when you are listening..it has set up the mind to prepare to hear from her. it is like a hope that is nurtured. let yourself feel hope then.

when the time is right, she will be able to get through to you if you do not close down too tightly within despair feelings.

also heres a link to how to make contact: if you study this carefully, read every word, this worked for me. I would like to see your heart mended.

http://www.afterlife-knowledge.com/contact.html

I avoided this topic because I felt I had nothing to offer. But then while I was doing the dishes just now I suddenly felt something. (No I am not a medium! or anything!)

     You will surely meet your wife again. The fact that you are here at this forum asking means that you are actively searching for her. Never stop searching for your wife, and you WILL find her.
You may not find her in the sense that we really desire...
You may find her in the world around you.
You may find her in your child.
You may find her while watching the sun set.

        If your wife could send you a special message, what do you think it would be? Chances are you know the answer. Everyone ultimately sends they're love. She loves you and the child. She wants you to be happy and give the child all of the love that it needs. You cannot be with her right now because the child needs you.

But if you look for her, you will find her.

Dear Roho,

My heart goes out to you and your family at this time of loss.  I am certain your wife and you will see each other when it is time for you to return home.

I also believe that she is never far from or your sweet baby boy. In him, I feel certain you will see her. Possibly when you least expect it, she will communicate her love for you both. Be open to receiving this gift from her.

Much love to you and your family.
Kathy

Roho:

Sorry for your loss. I know one person's experiences aren't anothers; nevertheless, I'll say that I've had many experiences which show that life after death does indeed exist, and things are set up so we meet the loved ones we need to meet when it is our time to cross over.

Regarding whether you'll make contact before hand, this is hard to say, because this is something that occurs on a case by case basis.  Even if you don't have something such as a visual experience, it is possible to connect to a departed loved one by sharing love. I'm not just sharing a plattitude. There are spirits I'm connected to in the spirit World, and we communicate on a regular basis. Sometimes we do so in a manner that has outward signs, but sometimes we do so simply by sharing love.

If you set the intent to make contact with your wife, trust your experience even if you experience nothing more than love.  If you have a dream with your wife that seems special, trust it. I've been keeping track of my dreams for some time now, and have found that without a shadow of a doubt, our spirit friends can communicate to us through dreams.

Hello roho,

My condolences for your loss.

I hope you can find help with the new responsibilities that are facing you. Maybe your county has social service agencies that can recommend what might work for you.

Like Recoverer, I and many of us have had contact with friends and family who have passed away. Such contact may not come immediately due to all that goes on in the afterlife.

Such contact pretty much has to be non-physical since she is in non-physical realms now. Please don't deny contact just because it shows up as 'dreams', 'mental telepathy,' 'wishful thinking,' etc.  It is way more than that!

Bets

I got signs from John (my late husband), almost immediately, though he didn't get good at it (as in not blowing up the electronics) for a month or more.

At two and a half years, I still get a lot of them, and he claims we'll be together again, so...

The whole being widowed thing is pretty lousy, but it helps a lot to know they're still out there, and still hangng with us.

Roho- My condolences for your loss. Reasons for things sometimes are obscure, but eventually will be made clear. There is excellent evidence from regression work that we are never truly separated, but merely the body has fallen off an otherwise living and active soul. At death we generally are reunited if we desire to be, and during life we are generally given indications of our loved ones nearby, even though invisible. Cricket's remarks are very much to the point.

dave

My heart breaks open with you.

Love,
        Tim
                 








                       

                 

Hi Roho,
I`d like to extend strength and good thoughts to you re: the cross over of your wife.
Justin mentions Hemi-Sync. A few years after my father crossed over a very dear friend of mine whom is very versed in the Buddism way, gave me a Hemi-Sync gaget. At first I was very affraid of this electronic thingy ma jig, but thn again I am terrfiied of the dentist too..lol.. :D In other words I must considerably indentify myself with my brain..lol..anything getting too close to it I tend to keep away from...lol..

Anyway... I had it sitting in the closet for quite a long time scared of it... yet decided to pull it out about 6 months ago. I looked it up in the internet to see what it was for. Come to find out that its medically prooven that  Hemi-Sync helps and can eleviate pain and can also bring all the chitter chatter in ones mind to focus on calmness. I was having some serious sleepness nights and didnt want to resort to sleeping aids. I read that they also use this on ADD children and for other things too.

I`ve used it for a few months now, however I use it without the glasses, just the sounds and I tell you, I sleep like a baby does now. Some of the physical pains I had are for the most part gone. So I am a real believer in the help Hemi-Sync can give the human body.

I simply put the headphones on and allow the Hemi-Sync to reorganise the sparkes which the brain though trauma etc. has caused priorly.

Hugs,
Nanner

from your wonderful picture lady, it looks to me like your running on all cylinders due to hemisync. I too say anything which makes us stop thinking so much can also help us reach the health and healing of all pain, emotional included as well as physical pains. and may even help Roho become intune with his wife's now life and essence and being.

for we do not die here you guys...we just go into another dimension.

Hi Roho,

I'm so sorry to hear of you loss...my prayers go out to you, your wife and your son.  I know how difficult this time can be and what it feels like to lose your love.

I'd say she's already communicating with you and leading you to places and meeting people to help you understand how communication works.  There's a lot of great people here and a lot of great words that have been shared with you already.

I would say, just be open to hearing from her and you will.  Whether it's in a song that reminds you of her as you get in the car, that feeling that although you can't see her, you can feel her with you in that moment, when you see her in your dreams (and believe me, you will know that it is her and not just another dream)...also when your son seems to just be staring into the sky with a smile on his face and following something around, I believe that to be our loved one's and the angels whom they see and smile at.  : )

There's a great book by Bill and Judy Guggenhiem called Hello From Heaven, you might want to take a look at.  It's a book filled with peoples experiences of ADC's (after death communications).

Hugs,
Lea

Thank you for all the advice and support.I'm feeling more hopeful already.

It's late at night, my wife is sleeping. After I type this, I will go to bed and hold her until I fall to sleep. (We don't have kids.)

I cannot imagine losing her. I cannot imagine your pain. Beyond that ... I can only say that I am sorry for your loss. Please try to hold yourself together for your baby.

Roho,

My hearts go out to you, especially having to raise your infant son without his mommy.  I know it is a hard, but rewarding journey for you. I hope you have a lot of support from other family members to help you raise your son.

Even though I have my husband, his parents, my parents to help me raise our son, I still complain how hard it is to raise a baby. Therefore, I cannot imagine what you are going through.

I hope you can share your story as your son grows each day. I would love to hear your strengths/weaknesses during all of this.

Stay strong,
Linh

Hi Roho,

I'm so sorry to hear of you loss...my prayers go out to you, your wife and your son.
I know how difficult this time can be and what it feels like to lose your love, been there myself.

You will get to contact her not to worry; and i'm sure she'll be checking on you and the baby.
Keep faith it will happen.

Much love; Romain

I haven't yet had a sign although now I have some hope thanks to the good people who replied here.And I purchased the book "Hello from Heaven" but haven't read it yet.

My Maria was an angel.She was so good for this world...and to me.We never had a bad day together.With the birth of our boy;Ray,we became even more fortunate.I truly felt like the luckiest man in the world with her.She was so happy and proud of her beautiful baby boy.We had planned and dreamed of so many great things to do together as a family.

Now,however,I feel very unlucky
...but I'm keeping it together so that I can raise this boy and create a bond with him.I've been home with him for a month now,mostly alone,and it has been going OK.We're getting along well.I've had great help from public health nurses,the Victorian Order of Nurses and some friends.After another two months,I'll have to get back to work and find a caregiver for Ray.I know that it's not going to be easy to do it without Maria ...financially,mentally,emotionally...but I think I can raise him in a stable and comfortable environment and be a good father.



Every day I keep looking at photos of Maria and telling her that I love her (or at the sky or the ceiling and talking to her)over and over again with the hopes that she hears me.

Roho,

I am so, so sorry for your loss. As I read your words I couldn't help crying. I feel your
pain too and I send all the love I can knowing you must feel so alone. I know that pain. I know that place. Please know that you are not alone in your loss but nevertheless.. you are alone in your situation.There will be some relief little by little. Everyone is different in how they deal with grief
There are no words to express that will bring the kind of comfort you need right now.
I am sure there are times you want to give up... but don't. Like everyone here has said, your
loving wife is not gone and you have a new purpose in your baby boy. I was a single father
too. It is a great joy to raise a child. I hope you come to see your wife in your boys eyes
and laughter and that you hear from her in the future.
Again, I am here knowing what you are going through so know that someone is thinking of you and praying for all three of you to find each other in love.

My heart goes out to you,

eaglecrow

Roho,

My heart breaks for you.  My wife of several years died seven months ago in a car accident (hit by a guy whose breaks went out).  Still seems like yesterday.  She drove off to work and never came back.

I believe it is certainly possible to make contact with them.  It was pointed out to me that people who have made the transition are still with us but they exist at a different vibrational level.  We can't see them but they can see us and do try to communicate with us.  We all live in the same "space".

One of the easiest ways they can contact us is through dream visitations.  These are not the kind of dreams that are made up the bits and pieces of our daily experiences.  You're not dreaming ABOUT them. These are real visits that leave little doubt in your mind that you have been with your loved one.  I have had two of them.  Before you go to sleep, talk to your wife and ask her to come to you.  Expect her to come.  Do it every night.  After she does come, write down your experience immediately.  And ask her to keep trying to get through in other ways as well.

Astral projection and out of body journeys are other ways to meet with them in convincing ways, but this takes a lot of practice.  Avoid mediums.  Some really make contact but sometimes it's with entities who are not who they claim to be.  Personal contact is much better and more convincing.  

Just some of my observations from personal experience.

Peace brother, you are in my prayers.  I do feel your pain.

Shining

Roho,

My sincere condolences for your loss... and my congratulations for your son!!!

It is from my very limited experience that the info that Bruce provides through his books and site are on the level.  I've experienced it several years ago... but just never pursued it in depth.

My belief is that agreements are made before entering this world.  I believe we pick our parents.  I believe we pick our mates.  I believe that influential relationships are not happenstance.  I believe that we enter the world understanding how we might exit.  Your son picked you.

God Bless,
Mactek