In the 20 years of my life , i've had no girlfriend what so ever and to tell you the truth i dont think i ever well have that special someone to share my life with. i've given up hope.

I go out and see everyday people my age have  that special person with them to share a part of there life.

Is there such thing as a soul Mate ?

Hi gringoLOCO   You will find that soulmate oneday as i used to feel like you but now after waiting for such a long time i have a soulmate Eddie and we love each other to bits and we are just soulmates,we are so close ,we help each other and we know what each are feeling and thinking,hes the most special person that has ever come into my life and that is what you will have oneday as we are all meant to meet that special person in the end.

Love and God bless love juditha

Hi dear fello,

During my  nde it was shown to me that everyone has thousands or even millions of soul mates. But here on earht there is a someone who will connect with you. You must be "bold" dont think bad about yourself or your appearance that special one is wating out there somewhere and will love you just as you are right from the begining. If you are very sensitive , shy and have this great fear of being rejected and shamed, dont worry everyone feels this. If YOU SEE A GIRL YOU LIKE AND FEEL A CONNECTION TO HER IT IS POSSIBLE THAT SHE FEELS THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU, BUT NOT ALWAYS. If you cant approach her find out from someone if she is not in a relationship and if not, get her address and send her a nice letter with some flowers and your phone number. You can talk an the phone untill you get the courage to meet her.

alan

Absolutely, GringoLOCO, there is a special partner for each of us, I totally believe that. It will be the most powerful thing that happens to you in your lifetime, and will affect every part of your life.

When I hear someone like you speak about your longing for your soulmate I really feel for you. My best friend is looking for her mate. She won't even spend five minutes on someone who isn't THE ONE for her, after a number of failed relationships and 7 years of loneliness. My current partner was alone (for the most part) for 10 YEARS before I showed up again into his life. I was with a wonderful husband who was NOT my soulmate for 15 years.

So, face it, anything can happen.

Pick up that phone! My current partner can converse eloquently for hours at a time. I have to hang up. But I love it. Every woman loves to be the center of attention....she will fall in love with your voice if you can get her on the phone long enough.

The other thing is, just go with the flow. I know it's excruciating. But I think now on all the time I was sighing over my own loneliness and wish that I had picked up more stirring and intellectual books, picked up more instruments and learned them.  Etc. Etc.

Lose yourself in what you love....whether it be art, books, music, bodybuilding, hunting, movies, service, pets, children, ...whatever, it doesn't matter. A woman is stirred to love by a man who shows how powerfully he can love.

So, it's not over yet, I assure you.

Here is an Irish folk song for you. I don't know who wrote these lyrics but it is a very pretty song:

The water is wide, I cannot get oer
Neither have I wings to fly
Give me a boat that can carry two
And both shall row, my love and I

A ship there is and she sails the sea
She's loaded deep as deep can be
But not so deep as the love I'm in
I know not if I sink or swim

I leaned my back against an oak
Thinking it was a trusty tree
But first it bent and then it broke
So did my love prove false to me

I reached my finger into some soft bush
Thinking the fairest flower to find
I pricked my finger to the bone
And left the fairest flower behind

Oh love be handsome and love be kind
Gay as a jewel when first it is new
But love grows old and waxes cold
And fades away like the morning dew

Must I go bound while you go free
Must I love a man who doesn't love me
Must I be born with so little art
As to love a man who'll break my heart

When cockle shells turn silver bells
Then will my love come back to me
When roses bloom in winter's gloom
Then will my love return to me

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love, blink :)