Post by Nanner on Feb 1st, 2008 at 8:29am
At some point most of us learned that it is a good idea to forgive people. We learned that it is "holy" or "spiritual".
But there is a more basic reason to forgive people: when you don't forgive them, it ruins your life!
Let's say:
a) you are my boss and you give me the sack, or
b) you are my girl or boyfriend, and you run off with my best friend.
So I say, "I'll never forgive you for that!"
Who suffers? You or me?
Obviously not you!
I'm pacing the floor.
I've got the knot in my stomach.
I'm losing sleep.
You are probably out partying!
Where do we get the idea that if WE don't forgive people, THEY suffer? It's nuts!
Recent studies at the Public Health Institute in California confirm that hostility and resentment tear down your immune system and double your risk of heart attack, cancer and even diabetes. So bitterness makes you sick!
To forgive someone, you don't have to agree with what they did.
You just have to want your life to work.
In a Nutshell
Is it easy? Usually not.
But you don't forgive people for their benefit. You do it for your benefit.
People int he afterlife can also feel this forgiveness and hinse they can see, feel and experience - maybe we should be the ones "changing our attitudes now in this lifetime" instead of waiting for another go around for to eventually do so anyway.
Hugs,
Nanner
But there is a more basic reason to forgive people: when you don't forgive them, it ruins your life!
Let's say:
a) you are my boss and you give me the sack, or
b) you are my girl or boyfriend, and you run off with my best friend.
So I say, "I'll never forgive you for that!"
Who suffers? You or me?
Obviously not you!
I'm pacing the floor.
I've got the knot in my stomach.
I'm losing sleep.
You are probably out partying!
Where do we get the idea that if WE don't forgive people, THEY suffer? It's nuts!
Recent studies at the Public Health Institute in California confirm that hostility and resentment tear down your immune system and double your risk of heart attack, cancer and even diabetes. So bitterness makes you sick!
To forgive someone, you don't have to agree with what they did.
You just have to want your life to work.
In a Nutshell
Is it easy? Usually not.
But you don't forgive people for their benefit. You do it for your benefit.
People int he afterlife can also feel this forgiveness and hinse they can see, feel and experience - maybe we should be the ones "changing our attitudes now in this lifetime" instead of waiting for another go around for to eventually do so anyway.
Hugs,
Nanner