As I understand it........when a spirit crosses over they begin to feel peaceful and they eventually let go of any earthly attachments. They let go.........especially feelings of grief and sadness. I am wondering if they ever miss thier loved ones......are they the least bit nostalgic?

Lets say a living person and a spirit that had crossed over recently had an extremly close bond on earth....(lets say they were lovers). I understand that the love never dies but it does change. Does that mean that the spirit would lose all romantic feelings for thier lover and instead love them in an unconditional-one-with-the-universe-parental type of love? Would the spirits romantic feelings for  thier  lover dissisipate and instead they would love their (previous) lover in the same way as one would love thier pet???? This kind of makes me sad! It would be a shame to lose the romantic feelings.

Also.....just how much of the personality remains intact after one crosses over. Do most spirits who cross over become "saintly"? If they were cheeky on earth will they be cheeky in the afterlife? I hope my friend doesnt lose his edge.........

In a nutshell.....my main concern is again......Is there romance in the afterlife???? (not necessarily limited to sexual expression of romantic love). Need to know! :-/

baby_duck wrote on Jul 2^nd, 2006 at 2:19pm:

As I understand it........when a spirit crosses over they begin to feel peaceful and they eventually let go of any earthly attachments. They let go.........especially feelings of grief and sadness. I am wondering if they ever miss thier loved ones......are they the least bit nostalgic?

They are empowered to *evolve* all feelings they had while on Earth, which means retaining the best of these feelings/thoughts/emotions, whilst losing the fear/false ideas/limitations of these feelings. The love, joy, specialness, romance, etc, not only retains, but is exponentially experienced and further developed many times over.



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Lets say a living person and a spirit that had crossed over recently had an extremly close bond on earth....(lets say they were lovers). I understand that the love never dies but it does change. Does that mean that the spirit would lose all romantic feelings for thier lover and instead love them in an unconditional-one-with-the-universe-parental type of love? Would the spirits romantic feelings for  thier  lover dissisipate and instead they would love their (previous) lover in the same way as one would love thier pet???? This kind of makes me sad! It would be a shame to lose the romantic feelings.

The romantic feelings of love is not, and will never be, lost. Only the fear/false idea based aspects of the relationship, if any, is let go of. For instance, jealousy, fear of losing the loved one, etc. The best and highest aspects of the romance, the feeling of deep, unique specialness for the other person in the relationship, all of such is within the souls, between the souls, and lives forever.



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Also.....just how much of the personality remains intact after one crosses over. Do most spirits who cross over become "saintly"? If they were cheeky on earth will they be cheeky in the afterlife? I hope my friend doesnt loose his edge.........

All of it. You see, your higher self or soul or real self, is the sum total of all your lifetimes on Earth, and much more (do not forget you, the Real You, are multidimensionally active and exist across planes, dimensions and realities; the incarnated personality within the biological body you see in the mirror is just a *part* of you, you're actually much greater than you might realize). So you never lose any of your personality aspects when your incarnated personality consciousness reintegrates its awareness fully with your higher self or soul, in the intermissive period (ie. period between intraphysical lifetimes) or in the spirit world.

For instance, in the spirit world, to a buddy of yours, you could choose to project the personality traits and appearance (eg. as a typical American guy) that you used when you were incarnated in the lifetime with this buddy on Earth. And with someone else, eg. a lover/spouse of yours from many lifetimes ago in another culture (eg. Atlantean), you could choose to project the personality traits and appearance (eg. as an playful, sensitive and compassionate girl/woman), that you were, in your past life with this person.

And *ALL* of these personality traits are, and will always be, a part of you. You won't ever lose any aspect of yourself, but on the contrary will only gain, develop and evolve. Endlessly.

And so on and so forth. Every relationship you've had, is special. And will always be special. And will always exist. Love transcends all boundaries of space, time and dimensions.



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In a nutshell.....my main concern is again......Is there romance in the afterlife???? (not necessarily limited to sexual expression of romantic love). Need to know! :-/

Yes, there is romance in the afterlife. Yes there is parental love in the afterlife. Yes there is brotherly love in the afterlife. Yes there are special friendships in the afterlife. Yes there are special loving relationships in the afterlife. Yes, there is sexual beauty, sexual intimacy and sexual loving in the afterlife. Yes, There is Love of all possible expressions, in the afterlife.


Love,
Kyo

Thank-you Kyo......I found your deep and thoughtful awnser to be very comforting......especially at this time! I appreciate how you carefully took the time to awnser different aspects to my question and I could tell you put alot of thought....intellect.......into your responses.

I am also wondering...........say your loved one wants you to move on because they want you to be happy because they are happy..............would it be unwise to contact them in the near future (via spiritual medium) if your intent was to try to move on......but you still had some questions that needed to be awnsered...........?!

Hi Baby Duck You can always contact him if you want to ,even when you move on ,what ever comes across in your life you will always share the love between you and patrick in your heart ,so be happy baby duck as patrick is happy now and he will feel much joy by seeing you happy and living your life. Love and god bless you juditha

:D Thank you sooo much....again!!!! God bless you too! I will try to be happy too!

FYI (Juditha): Shortly after posting this question and reading your email, I went on my lunchbreak at work. I was walking around the corner and I saw two shiny, big, gold coins on the ground. I was immediatly drawn to them and I picked up the coins. I remembered that spirits often like to use coins as a means to communicate in ADC's. Patrick had given me a coin when he was alive. The front said "SEX" in capital letters. The back read: NO CASH VALUE. He gave me the coin as a joke saying it could be redeemed for sex. Well........those two coins I had picked up off the ground.........they were  exact replicas of that same coin......Perhaps it was meant as a message from Pat confirming what you and Kyo had mentioned in your responses.........there is magic! Finding the coins had cheered me up.......thanks Pat!

:)Great Posting Kyo, you hit it so well I was awstruck...

Love, Ricardo

Beautiful Kyo  :)