Dear White Feather, this post reminds me so much of all of us being actors on the stage of life. as a former actress I was always fearful that I would be typecasted, then the reputation would follow me and other directors would not hire me to play the choice parts that I knew inside me I was capable of doing well.

I gave up on the acting career as I discovered in order to make it I might have to play parts I'd rather not. even do commercial...god forbid...I knew a good actress was required to "really get into it and be able to become the part and throw it off just as easy..I saw myself as good, but not good enough to be able to not become emotionally involved in my character which made me feel this or that...a character to play is simply a walking belief system, good or bad or indifferent. I had to find out who I was before becoming someone else on the stage because I knew I was going to believe in all of it..so now you and I and others come to a place of real choice...to believe as we wish...my guide told me this a long time ago when I asked what true strength was, true faith, true courage...he said go forth into your life "AS IF everything that you wish were true, were true...then you will be doing what you came here for.

I used to be blunt honest towards people. A couple of things helped change that.

I learned that things are rarely simple. I also learned that when people don't want to listen, the best thing to do is step back and let them fall on their own sword. That's how they learn. Let them pay the cost to be the boss.

And using tact and diplomacy is usually more effective than being blunt. But admittedly I still wish everyone could just be forthright about everything.