My partner and I were born only hours apart. Each one of us in a different corner of the world. Somehow destiny brought us together in a foreing country and there is a very strong bond between us.
I thought he was my soulmate but he has a very negative and destructive effect on me. I love him with all my heart but I wish he went away.
Is it possible that sometimes soulmates are not a positive thing in our lives or am I mistaken and my partner is just not a soulmate?

Well if you believe in the concept of soulmates both soulmates should not have a lot of troubles passing through anything bad.

If you don't believe in soulmates then you and whoever you are with will have to work on your relationship.

Personally I don't believe in soulmates. I think it's just a silly excuse to make people believe they don't have to work on their relationships (up to a certain point of course. Someone who is being hit by their partner should not "work" on the realtionship ;)).

dear Southern Star, sometimes we grow by walking away from a relationship. sometimes this is best even though at once a belief system crash occurs, and the real job for this one is to let go of the belief system that soulmates are forever to remain physically together.
This takes all the courage you have to leave, to respect yourself enough to flee from what is not feeling good here and being projected to you. to leave, gives the other time to reflect "why did she leave?"
while you are reflecting "why did I stay so long?"
we each use each other within relationship, whether soul mates or not, to become strong, to gain a will for good, and to learn to ask for what we want within relationship. if by studying the pros and cons of remaining within unsatisfactory relationships, you are still in conflict, we have marriage counselors that people seldom engage. there are alternatives besides leaving in a huff. but as for myself personally, to be in any conflict of mind is not endurable, for life is too short to be feeling badly for more than just a few minutes time it takes to make a solid decision that you shall learn what happiness is, what loving is, and leap into that decision courageously to take care of number one despite how hard to do that may seem at first. it's not. you are a free soul to do here what u want that does not bring harm to another and relieves you of harm to yourself. in other words, the time is short, make yourself happy. btw, the bond continues, if he is your soulmate, it is eternal...that does not mean you have to live under the same roof. I know, my soulmate and I divorced, but the bond continued and still does, even in death. hope this helps you to see how we use each other to grow with and project our problems onto another, that it's their fault we are not happy. another person has every right to sulk, but u don't have to be sad with them. love, alysia

Soulmate? Just so I don't end up paying alimony someday.   :-[  :)

Southern star,

We through our lives have many soul mates, in fact we could call every soul we encounter a soul mate, for we are here for each others growth. Some are way shower some are a helping hand and other have the hardest job of showing us what is laking deep inside us.

With any relationship there are times to hold on and work through our issues and there are time when we have completed our agreements and we are to move on.You have the answer within you ,your soul knows what it wants to do,follow your inner guidance if it is telling you times up then move on. There will be something better waiting for you,somewhere else you can grow. Life is all about one thing and that is your souls growth. Know this then you wont have any regrets.

Southern star,  

No body is perfect. Of course we’ll always have to work on our relationships.

I guess what we call soul mate hasn’t been so since we were created. I believe that two souls can meet each other many times along their lifetimes and start a very special relationship. As long as time passes they grow together and the binding between then get stronger.  

So I believe we can build a soulmate_like Relationship.

That said, I ‘d say that sometimes we feel afraid of move on and try a new experience with someone new because we think there is just one person to us in this lifetime, but it’s not real, God has nothing against our pursuit of the happiness and always will support us in our search if our intention is Good.

So you are free to try further to improve your current relationship or go on and look for a new chance. Only you can take the decision. But God won’t judge you, only your consciousness can judge you.

The term 'soulmate' is not how everyone seems to think it is. Soulmates have been with us in other lives and are with us to help us whether it's perceived as good or bad. We all have many soulmates on earth with us now. Alysia is one of my soulmates and so is Kathy and many others that are here. I would even go so far as to say that Bezerk is one of my soulmates as I have learned sooooooooooo very much from him.  :o

With Love, Mairlyn  ;D